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Tuesday, 28 July 2026

People are depending on you

Marina Crane (00:00.43) Okay. Sutana just finished their celebration last weekend and it's Tuesday July twenty-eighth. And I did manage to get out about five or ten minutes of sun. My voice is still not up to normal. because again I struggle. I'm I'm a senior, what can I say? But I wanted to post some two tipped TikToks. And they're from like people that I I follow and I watch. And they're quite relevant to like the the the things that I say in my podcast. Now the first one will be Brandy Morin, who's a indigenous investigative reporter. I'd like you to listen to it. And then I'll make comments and then I'll go to the next podcast. Did you know that indigenous women are the fastest growing population in Canada's federal prisons? We're about five percent of the female population in this country, but we make up nearly half of the women locked up in federal custody. In some facilities, it's over seventy percent. And it's not random. It's not Or more criminal or whatever excuse this country wants to reach for. It's colonialism. Still doing exactly what it was built to do. Residential schools, broken child welfare systems, poverty, generations of trauma. This country has never actually invested in healing. All of it funneling our women straight into cells. And here's the part that most people don't talk about. This is connected to the crisis of our missing and murdered indigenous. Indigenous women and girls, it's the same root causes, the same systems failing us. And sometimes it's the same woman. She survives one thing only to be swallowed by the other. I know this isn't abstract because I lived it. I was 13 years old the first time I went to jail. Now I'm not gonna tell you the whole story here. I wrote it out in full because it deserves more than 60 seconds. But I'll tell you this. Marina Crane (02:23.896) I made it out. So many of our women that I met along the way didn't. And some of them I can still name. Some of them I've had to grieve. This country has known about this crisis for years. Commissions have named it. Inquiries have named it. And the numbers keep climbing anyway. I wrote about my own story, the women I lost, and what's actually being done and what isn't to fix this. It's up now on Indigenous Insider. Links in my bio. Go read it. Hi hi. So basically that's like she's a young woman. I'm a senior, but you know her story is generational, intergenerational. Yes, I lost a lot of friends relatives. they went through the the the system, arrested, went to prison. And and when they came out got into addictions, well they were in addictions before, and and just ended up being murdered on on on the streets of Vancouver or or just having the bejesus beaten out of them by their partner and and left to die. So a lot of this things that I the things that I talk about and what t this young woman is trying to say too is that it's historical, it's been documented, you know, people keep on reading books about it. And and for me when I have white friends who, you know, they they they want to be they want to be therapists and I'm going, Why? you know, at sixty five years old, why? Or and that's just not indigenous women, not white just white women, there's also indigenous women, you know, are same age, but wanting to go and get their masters and and help. But but the reality of it is, and I'll I'll use an example. I have two white acquaintances, one female and one male. Both drink. Okay. The conversations I have with them, like I said, the female and male Marina Crane (04:36.008) One has boundaries and the other one could have had boundaries but didn't. And as a result of that, this systemic the systemic colonial way of thinking, even though she tries to identify with it when I talk to her, 'cause she's a white woman. The other fellow, he's he's European. You know, it's just straight to the point, this is this is I can take care of myself. So the example was I was talking to her and she says, My cholesterol's high and she says, I've been eating right and I said, Well take the medication. She says, No, my my my parents took that and I just want to do it natural. Then I said, Well then and and again when when when people drink like they drink maybe four four or three glasses of alcohol a week but the but the research says that you know to totally detox from any kind of alcohol such as like four or three or four glasses a week for fifty two weeks, you you have to basically detox and not touch alcohol for at least a whole year. Now most of the time When I started wondering about alcohol and addictions because of my my parents. And and adults that I that I saw. Like I said, after in the sixties I didn't see it and then when it was allowed to come into community then I saw it more. I saw more of the violence that th you know, they say like there are some things that come out when you're you're you're drinking that normally it wouldn't come out if you're sober. So I suggested to her, rather than t detoxing for a year, I I just said, maybe just stop drinking for six months. Okay, obviously it's offended her because it's been going on two, three weeks now and th no contact. Now the the the other person, male, indigenous, when I'm talking to him about just things, you know, getting to know each other. Marina Crane (06:44.184) He says, I can take care of myself. So just in that conversation I know like okay, I d I don't need to talk any more about you know alcohol with him. It's just straight to the point. Now in in the sense in the sense of healing and the colonial constructs and what I think white what white privilege fails to understand, especially women. I I don't know why as women we we think this way or that we don't think that we need to establish boundaries with other women. It's it's not like homosexuality. It's just common decency about boundaries. I mean, we all have to practice it. It's like conflict resolution. When I was taking this course, the whole point was to practice open-ended questions. When when like for me, I know personally, this is my own opinion. I know I have a hard time asking open-ended questions. My questions are usually closed. Well, that means that I I'm asking you a question and I and I want you to answer in a yes or no. No fashion. Those are close-ended questions. But with open-ended questions, it it evolves and it evolves a lot of things in terms of intimacy. So I'm going to play this next recording, which is about the deep psychological impact or even the way in my life how I've had people label me throughout my life. And and so that's why I do my podcast because when Nathan Chasing Horse did come here, the the labeling and the we'll say grooming because like that's what I'm talking about. I I talk about my two white acquaintances and how they interact with me. Marina Crane (08:35.744) Now the reason I'm going to play this next recording has to do with mental health. And it has to do with just the intergenerational trauma. When I talk about limerence, this is I want you to listen to this. again, when when I do talk about therapies, I I do say like in order to eliminate a self-defeating behavior you have to have guided imagery. You have to have someone like like someone who has those boundaries in place for you. Now I know this white female acquaintance says, I can't counsel such and such. Yes, you can't, but the reality of it is like you have the ability to form boundaries and you didn't. Okay. Now the reasoning I'm saying that is because there is some sort of juxtaposition in terms of how white women see indigenous women. See see men can see indigenous women in a certain way too because a lot of times we're eroticized, sexualized. Now I'm gonna play this. Like I said, it's it's it's it's an interesting it's how how it's three minutes. And it's called Hypersexuality and Mental Health. So and and the reason I'm doing this is because it's straight to the point when I talk about therapists and therapy in eliminating a self-defeating behavior, because this hypersexuality and deals with that whole construct vi of identity. Marina Crane (10:15.874) Now I don't know if he c I can hear this. If he can hear it. I don't know why it's not coming through. Marina Crane (10:26.682) this is interesting. Say ten But we need mental health. Hello, I'm Professor Rahmat Hangir. I am a teacher Psychiatrist, and today I want to talk about a topic that isn't discussed nearly enough. Hypersexuality. It's a taboo subject, but we need to talk about it because for some people it can have profound consequences. Hypersexuality isn't simply having a high sex drive, it refers to sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that become difficult to control and begin causing distress. Or significant problems in someone's life. One of the best recognized causes is bipolar disorder. During manic or hypomanic episodes, changes in brain function can lead to increased reward seeking, reduced inhibition, impulsivity, and overconfidence. For some people, this can result in a sudden surge in sexual desire and risky sexual behavior. This might include multiple sexual partners, sex with strangers. Compulsive pornography use, compulsive masturbation, spending excessive amounts of money on sexual services, or crossing personal or relationship boundaries. Hypersexuality can also occur in some people with ADHD, certain personality disorders, substance use disorders, and some neurological conditions. Hypersexuality can affect anyone. However, in a disinhibited state, some individuals may become more vulnerable to coercion, exploitation, troll. Or sexual assault. When the episode or period of dysregulation passes, many people are left carrying immense shame, bar embarrassment, guilt, or confusion. Relationships can break down, careers can be damaged. There may also be risks such as sexually transmitted infections, unplanned pregnancies, financial difficulties, or legal consequences. It's important to say this clearly. Understanding the role of mental illness does not excuse harmful behavior or Marina Crane (12:37.968) Or remove personal responsibility, but it does help us understand why these experiences occur and how we can support recovery without shame or stigma. Treatment depends on the underlying cause. For bipolar disorder, moose stabilizers can be highly effective. Psychological therapies can also help people develop insight, improve impulse control, and reduce risk. If you recognize yourself or someone you love in what I've described, please don't suffer in silence. Honest conversations with the mental health professional can be life-changing. Sexuality can sometimes be a symptom of an underlying mental health condition rather than a reflection of someone's values or character. Let's replace shame with understanding, stigma with compassion, and silence with honest conversation. I hope you found that helpful. As always, protect your minds and protect your hearts. And bye for now. Okay, so the reason I wanted to play that is like. Like the hypersexuality from my own personal experience and and just how people perceive me i is very important because like he said, honest conversation. and again, y you have to have like a a therapist who who who has basically studied this. I used when I went to university I had a difficult time just dealing with like my academics. And and and I started thinking, why why is it when somebody you know gets an A and I've struggled so hard? Well it you know, obviously there are a number of factors with this. But the reason I want to go back to hypersexuality is that like the two individuals that I talk about when I I know I first met entered to this podcast, one male and one female is that well I'll use I'll use a a friend of mine. She's she's Japanese American. I've known her for thirty years. She lives in California. And her she looked she took care of her mother for seventeen years and her mother was ninety seven when she passed away. Marina Crane (14:50.504) So like with the aging brain and for me as an elder and when I talk to other Indigenous women or just women in general about s our sexual desires or our sexual needs, I I think a lot of times people just want to make us invisible. And And again, when we were younger, it was a lot easier for people who didn't understand culture or didn't want to look at the poverty behind indigenous girls or like like were poorly educated or poorly socialized. That's the stigma because again, you know, I have more respect for for this white man than I do what for this white woman because at least he said I can take care of myself. Whereas for her it's just like I'm ghosted now. And and throughout my life, like I like I said, being an indigenous female, it was a lot easier to be classified as hypersexual. and I didn't understand that. You know, just the way people looked at me, like But but yet like when I was talking to this white man, I said to him, you know, when I was younger I was I was promiscuous. And and then he says, you broke hearts and I said to him, No, this was a local this was a typical local agreement, meet a guy, we pick you know, one night stand, wham bang, thank you, goodbye. Never seeing them again. I said that was my private life. Nobody knew, nobody knows anything about how many partners I've had. Nothing. And I'm explaining this to this white man. Now I've explained this to this white woman too. But there's a difference. There is a definite difference because again, boundaries. Marina Crane (16:46.518) And I'm not saying that that I'm ho that I have homosexual tendencies. I'm just saying that that with women when it comes to talking about sexuality, sometimes it's a reflection on their own their own insecurities. Like so that's why I'm saying my white female friend has insecurities. whereas the the white man, yes he has insecurities, but he has boundaries. So having conversations with a with a man about that was was an exercise for me. And like I like I said, my my my Japanese American friend who looked after her her mother I'll use an example. Like I became friends with this white woman during the pandemic. And a lot of times when we talk it would be about seniors like in nursing homes where they bec where there was a high r a high rate of sexually transmitted diseases. And and the wonder is like, my goodness, like as we age, how do how for me it was interesting, how would I behave when I become older around somebody that I'm I'm attracted to? And so this white woman and I had discussions about like the like what happens in these nursing homes. And there were a couple of stories where this the children, the adult children, put their parents into a nursing home and the children were surprised that their mother became very promiscuous and started sleeping around with the the the men within the nursing home. That that they just couldn't believe that that was their mother. Okay, but I'm saying too, like it has to do with how women I think how women throughout their life like I said, every ten years we sort of we change our identities and how we evolve to who we are by the time we're elderly. Another example was there was an elderly man Marina Crane (18:50.52) He, you know, th his son was called in and they told his their son, Well, we have a problem with your father. He was in the dining room and he got up and he yelled to everybody in the dining room, I need to have sex. And the solution for that was they got him an iPad and they put it on pornography, and that settled him. So so those those types of observations, especially with the aging mind and again because of hormones and how people throughout their lives handle things. So so for me, I try and say to people, I haven't had children, so those hormones and that instinct to to mother, I I've never experienced that. I've I've never had the urge to have children, because it seems like when once a woman delivers a baby, that that that whole whole hormone activity of losing yourself within that child for five years, rebuilding your body and your psyche. Like I've never experienced that. So so for me, even when I'm I can see like when I'm a senior in a nursing home, if knock on wood, that that, you know, I I I do need to talk about things, you ho healthy human sexuality because again, we don't know what life has in store for us. And and for me, part part of understanding who I am ha has a lot to do with lateral violence. And I think that's why my white female friend just didn't have boundaries with me. And and that's the key thing here when I talk about mental health workers, social workers, people who are not indigenous, who well say doctors, lawyers, mayors, and presidents. Like my friend in in California and her ninety-seven year old mother, she was t saying to me, I have such a hard time getting her to do physiotherapy. Arguing, arguing, you know, like dementia, Alzheimer's, whatever. It was just a chore to get her mother to do a little bit of exercise every day. Marina Crane (21:07.574) So I was doing a video conference call with her and she said to me, Marina, do you see my mom in the background? Sure enough, you know, I saw her her mother, 97 years old, walking in the hallway back and forth, you know, into the living room and back into the kitchen. She says, Marina, look at how active she is. She won't do that for me. She says, You know why she's doing that? Because her physiotherapist came here and he's a handsome young man. And so I reflect on that in terms of as we age, the when we see some some someone that we're attracted to that sexually arouses us, we can't turn it off. And and for me, when I'm around men and they have boundaries, then at least I know like they respect me. Because it's one thing for for me to sort of like to say, like they know that I I find them attractive, but but it's not a question of my being promiscuous. And and so because again, that label was fifty years ago. But it's it's the the change or the evolution of how outsiders will say the voyeur or the colonists look at indigenous women. So for example, like my friend, my Japanese friend, I met her in Utah. And and again too because I was being sexualized and the pressure to to like not be sexual because this is a Mormon community. And the the rigidity of you have to get married in the Mormon temple, you have to go on a mission like La Dida, the pressure was so great. And I I use the excuse that I like this football player and 'cause it's a normal behavior when you're infatuated with someone. And I thought if I had him as my narrative Marina Crane (23:07.554) where they would back off and leave me alone trying to set me up or get me to date like them or find a husband like as a conversation piece because there were certain taboos you couldn't talk about in in that kind of a cult environment. That's how I met my friend in California. So when I talked to her about the fact that I was very happy to have seen how her mother at ninety-seven was still a sexual human being. And and and again this white man that I'm talking about with boundaries consistently saying I have a wife. And and for you know, a couple of years, three years, like it the boundaries were in place. So anytime there was things that I believed that I needed he needed to put boundaries down, it was this a dance of intimacy where I knew those were boundaries. And and so like with my white fr female friend, the whole part of her just struggling to make things and have like some independence, it it sort of like like for me, I've gone through so many friends, like so many friends throughout my life. And and then I have friends who I've known for thirty years, I've known I have friends from childhood and and and then I have new newfound friends as well. So so I've really been due diligent when it comes to socializing. Marina Crane (24:42.841) And and so my this white man says to me, You're quite active, you're more active than my parents. Well because I've I've had to I've had to do all these social constructs of intimacy with with people because I'm alone. Now Why why is this so important when it comes to hypersexuality? Well, again, because because I've been a l around a lot of older women than myself who were hypersexual, but without boundaries, like from healthy men, they the dance of intimacy and boundaries they they they haven't practiced it. And and so they this infatuation becomes limerant. And it's this hypersexuality that's limerant based on whatever psychological or physiological problem the individual has is multi-complex. That's why you have this psychiatrist talking about this is a taboo issue, but we need to talk about it. And and and that's the origin too of people looking at indigenous women, girls, older, middle c middle aged and even elderly as hypersexual. Because if n the reason I'm this is my concept, this is my opinion. The reason for that is if that were not the case, this white woman who I hoped would ha she wanted to know impro she was talking about what is it that can lower her cholesterol and I said just take a break from drinking alcohol for six months and see if that's see if that's what's prompting this what do call the tet the c cholesterol to increase in your system boundaries. she just ghosted me. And and so I I she introduced me to a friend of hers that she stays with and they were talking about their their youth, like how how promiscuous they were. And for me, promiscuity as an indigenous woman Marina Crane (26:55.681) you sort of get classified as being hypersexual and having all this mental health problems. Whereas with with white women it it's it's not seen that way. But yet but yet now when they're elderly there there is there's do like there's conversation that that need to be said because because again we're as human beings, male and female, we cannot shut off who we're attracted to. Even when you're in a committed relationship, the boundaries that you set in place when you meet someone you're attracted to is you just say, I'm married, or I I have a partner, I'm or I'm involved. Boundaries are important. Now, even in hypersexuality and the manipulation and the bullying or the gaslighting, all these psychological terms of of deviant behavior and I shouldn't say deviant behavior, self-defeating behavior is more appropriate because because the hypersexuality creates a a self-defeating behavior when it comes to the central nervous system. So for example, and I think I've reiterated this in my previous bod podcast, was that when when if you give up for three months, if you give up what's the first one? gambling we'll say. And and say you give up pornography and you give up eating junk food for three months. Like you slowly wean yourself off and you give it up for three months. Your your nervous system starts balancing out. I mean it seems so simple but but because we're we've we've had this central nervous system in place for decades or sometimes we've evolved. Marina Crane (28:50.175) And and this is the critical thing here, that's why I want people to listen to this. For me, I'm 74. I haven't been sexually active for 49 years, going on 50 years this coming October. Any kind of sexual deviancy or any kind of self-defeating behavior, anything to do with hypersexuality, hey, how many years Don't classify me or stereotype me or put me in a box of hypersexuality. See, and that's the danger because this white woman and her friend, and I don't know who else she's talked to, have put me in there, and these women are academic. There was a a friend of hers who's a professor and her husband died. Patriarchy. And and she's so like she's got anxiety, she's afraid of being alone and she's gonna die alone. Like that's the same connection that I had with this white woman when when the pandemic came. What's gonna happen s you know, if if I die in this apartment, who's gonna find me? And so we had conversation about living alone. Now I'm not her therapist, I'm just being myself. And again too, I'm learning about boundaries as well. That's why I'm doing this podcast. So the reality of it is like with both, with all human beings, male or female, whether you're heterosexual or homosexual, whatever sexual orientation you pronouns, nouns that you call yourself, boundaries exist in every level. Every level. So the reality of it is that, you know, when a woman chooses to have children or chooses not to. And how they engage every ten years in their life, whether or not they they want to remain sexual. Like it's it's a really interesting dichotomy or cross section, or we'll call it like an autopsy of d deconstructing our our sexual lineage. Individuals, self reflection. Like a Marina Crane (31:09.683) As much as as this white woman wants to be a therapist, the whole nature that she's offended because I brought up a cognitive solution that she could either take or not take. But if it wa but if it triggered her like like it triggered this white man, all she had to say was I can take care of myself. And and I would have just dropped it. But no. There there had to be some convoluted understanding of why it was so offensive for me as an indigenous elderly woman, giving her, you know, a solution that I thought might be interesting for her to test out because she didn't want to have any medication. So, you know, people self soothe with alcohol. They think it's you know, it like again, central nervous system. If you want to balance your central nervous system, then you need to slowly wean yourself off of things that your central nervous system has been attached to. And and when you're doing hypersexuality and you choose to be promiscuous, from from like a teenager to young adult to middle, like as you grow and you're still promiscuous, it it is a bit concerning in the sense that. you haven't done that that autopsy on your own sexual identity and your own sexual needs and your own self respect in how you talk to another human being about what life means to you. Like I and I and again I apologize to my podcast listeners because, you know, for for years I just chose to just you know like not really deal with the probability or the concept that I could become sexual any time. Now as I'm aging, okay, and I hear all these stories about elderly people in nursing homes. You know, this is concerning as for me as an individual. And and so this white man that came into my life about three years ago, at the time I was dealing with this attraction. Marina Crane (33:35.008) I had known a fellow for thirty years and again, you know, it it it just bothered me that he was that again, these boundaries or lack of boundaries he he was separating from his partner for who he'd been with for thirty-five years. And I just thought what is it that he sees in me? And and again, there was a lot of things that he kept secret, but yet when it came time for me to become public about what I had been doing for twenty years. He wanted to to be a part of that. He wanted to have his name in newsprint or be interviewed. Like like and and it it really bothered me that that you know in the colonial set I was nothing until this issue of Nathan chasing horse came up. All of a sudden here's this white man saying, I'm here. And and the same with my white therapist or my you know, just people in general that were not indigenous and some indigenous too. And and it it really struck a chord with me because I've never had that type of attention before. But it but it was a false attention. And I knew that. I I knew I had to put boundaries down. And even like in March and April when I said I went down to Las Vegas, I didn't want anybody to know that I was going down there. Again this whole psychology of s of hypersexuality, the lateral violence of putting me in a in a in a a label that this woman was hypersexual when she was you know in her late teens and and you know the lateral violence of keeping me in that loop. It's hard for me to to to be seen. And the reason I do this podcast and I talk about this white man with boundaries is because he saw me. It's at the same t at the same time too. I made no like there was no pretense that that like he's just like I'm gonna treat him like like my son or my tr my neighbor or my boss or there was no it was just man and woman talking. And and sure. Marina Crane (35:59.744) He's you know, he's he he he reminded me of of s some some of my former sex well, I shouldn't say some, but what I'm trying to get at is I was open. I I wasn't saying, I'm too old to be sexually active. I was open and the reality is like I said, through the times we had conversation there was always clear boundaries, I'm in a relationship. So it was you it was quite evident. But yet I had to I I I need I really needed to talk to him. And and the fact that he saw me and he had some closure in Las Vegas with this case. Now when I talk to other women, non indigenous women or even women, the and I talk to them about this lack of boundary, the majority of in d of women say, Well, Marina You know, we we have friends and then and then they they c leave out of our life and I said, Yes, my whole life I've had that. I've had close friends and then and then they th you know, they they they're no longer there. There's just a select few that I've known my whole life or I've reconnected and will still connect with them. But the one saving I think the one saving grace of this whole damn dynamics is family. So even if your siblings treat you like shit, they're still your siblings. You know, they're still gonna grieve over you when you when you pass. Even no matter what, you know, that central nervous system is set up in place in our very psyche. So as we age and as the decades go by, it's the challenge of how we've dealt with our central nervous system. So that's why for me as an indigenous woman, I find it very colonial that white women would sooner look at me as if my central nervous system hasn't ever changed or that I'm gonna this part of hyper sexuality is still has lingered in my sexual life my whole life. and and the notion that that I will always be this vulnerable, exotic, not like sexual human being, but yet Marina Crane (38:25.431) You know, I'm going yes, I I choose to to be honest about my sexual feelings. I I've suppressed them because of just the being on guard, always like being ready to be attacked. And and I didn't I didn't want that when I went down to Las Vegas. I I didn't want anybody to know. I didn't want people to be attacking me, like just you know, whatever way they thought just to to tick. pick my brain. I wanted everything not like I didn't want to deal with that. I just wanted that feeling of like, okay, when I was hypersexual, nobody knew my business. And the reality of it is that from that childhood memory fifty forty nine years ago, it started off fifty fifty-five years ago to 49. That's six years of my life. Six years of my life. And and for for a white woman or or white man to not see me or or like like what I'm trying to say is in in my community the young men know me. the young women know me, at least some of them know me. And and even then too it's it's not a question of them asking, it's a question of respect and boundaries. And and throughout my life, even as people have tried to hurt me within my community. I see how their lives have turned out now that they're older. And and I'm grateful to the the path of that I've taken. But but yet at the same time too I'm also always on the alert that that I'm going have to be guarded. But for a brief period, like I said in March and April, I you know, I let my guard down. I I totally relaxed and and because of that I enjoyed my trip in Las Vegas. As hard as it was, I enjoyed my trip. meeting people, talking to people, having closure with people. And I know when I talk about this to other people who have just recently met me and they thank me for sharing this story with them because there's so much Marina Crane (40:53.351) intergenerational trauma, especially with indigenous females, that I think white women cannot even comprehend. Because whether or not they would truly want to admit it, they still treat me this way. No boundaries. You know, if you p if you respected me and you didn't see me as a hypersexual elder, you would have put down boundaries and said, I can help I can I can look after myself. But but you didn't. See, the white man did. As as long as I've met him, always boundaries. Always boundaries in text, in conversations on the phone. And and I try to to say that there there is a lesson that there are good men out there. And like I was so scared, like like what thirty thirty-three years ago or so when I took the man who sexually assaulted me, a friend of mine, who's passed away since, like she did a lot of volunteer work with me and she'd come and visit my family and we just did a lot of things together. And there was no there was no convoluted stuff happening. And and she said to me, she said, Marina, once you do this, you'll you'll say, why didn't I do this sooner? And and that's what I the gift I gave to to Lynette and Sierra with with blanket and with with prayer was that that at some point they would have this epiphany that they've done something. They've faced the person who instilled fear in them. And for however long they held that fear, it's no longer there. And and anybody who wants to look at them as hypersexual sexualized i it doesn't matter because because that that shadow, that that that that limerence, that cloud has dissipated. It that mental health and the courage to eliminate a self defeating behavior i is part of the the reward to say. Now, even though I'm talking about this as something that happened to me thirty years ago, I it Marina Crane (43:19.031) this forensic psychologist that I've known, not my therapist, I I w I you know, I I can face that. I can say, yeah, no, I suppressed. I I suppressed my my sexual feelings for for thirty years. Like even though I went to court, I I I I knew that like my my friend said, she said, you know, and the analogy is like I didn't want to have my life every day when I'd meet a stranger, a man, especially a man, that that I would fear that all men are the same. So, you know, thirty years of interacting with men and and again trusting men, especially white men. Like like the white man who I went with to Las Vegas, I'd off the cuff say, You're damn lucky I have white uncles. But that's an analogy that, you know, the the work that I did in it from the time that I went to court and to eliminating a self defeating behavior. To to understand the the self defeating behavior, the different levels of it. Again, when I talk about hypersexuality, I I haven't been sexually active, like I said, in forty nine, fifty years. So it's it's the deconstruction of a psychological imprint that that people in my community or society places on women. That's why for me it's so important for curriculum development for indigenous teenagers, young women, older women, in what colonial mindsets and constructs have created in terms of murdered and missing Indigenous women and why this hypersexuality has been has been a key in in using that that that whole labelling as as like an excuse to to hunt us and to kill us. Because my goodness, we're we're not intelligent enough to to be non non hypersexual when it's okay for white women to be hypersexual or white men. See, I'm not criticizing all white women. I'm I'm just critiquing and saying they're you know Marina Crane (45:42.575) Well use Danielle Smith and her analogy or her allegory of the chiefs and treaty the chiefs of Alberta to check themselves. Well, for me, when it comes to white women and s symbolically they're telling me to check myself. And I'm going, no, I don't need you to tell me to check myself. See, ghosting me is is the analogy of you saying to me, I need to check myself. ma the white man that I went with to Las Vegas, we both agreed there was closure. And the reality of him respecting me and validating things that I didn't even know that I did, that that I really need like that I really needed to own. I didn't know that because I was so guarded about protecting my own Like my own ego, my own sexual identity that that I you know, I I didn't realize that that he was you know, these boundaries were teaching me a lesson about who I am as an indigenous woman. So so for me that's the key ingredient here with indigenous women is the reality that you can heal yourself, but it but it's a dance of intimacy with whatever sexual partner you you associate with because it it's it's important. It's important to understand boundaries. It's also important for you as the victim to understand that you're worth being loved. And that and that part of love doesn't mean that you're gonna beat up your partner or that partner's gonna beat you up. That hypersexuality and that sexual drive, that's normal. But when you incorporate violence and deviant behavior like like like brutality and violence, then then it it's scary. And and because of that, I think people who who aren't from our culture, white women, tend to look at it like, my goodness. Yet yet they themselves are are the mo have been in the most dangerous position their entire lives, but they haven't seen it. Marina Crane (48:06.338) And they never will see it, because there's still that privilege that allows them to look the look at somebody le like it's like a God complex. Like I said, people have got to really put boundaries down. I mean, it's important for me to to meet people and to to ask questions, like I said, open ended questions rather than closed questions. And And so the practice of having a dialogue is important. So th this white woman, when I when I had talked to her about how I felt about this white man, it was important. It was important for me to talk to her. And the reality of it is just like like my my friend's mother, the ninety seven year old, I was saying to my friend Diane, I said, I am so grateful to have seen your your your mum still be a sexual human being at ninety seven. For for her physiotherapist to to honor her at ninety seven by by being friendly to her, engaging with her, talking to her, because it made her feel like a a human being, a young sexual human being at ninety seven. So for the white man who traveled with me to Las Vegas, Doing this for me for the past three years was vital. And I really appreciate the experience and the validation. And and that's what I part of the whole podcast is is the reality that my story has meaning. Just like this Brandy Moore talking about, you know, she she was arrested at thirteen. Like the whole dynamics of people and how they struggle and and the social the social construct. That creates a society that that is fear-mongering because the the it's so easy to label all indigenous females as hypersexual. And and of course, hyposexuality comes as intergenerational trauma. I'm not saying it doesn't exist. I'm saying it does exist. I'm saying I've dealt with my self-defeating behavior. It's it's something you have to talk about. Marina Crane (50:30.305) You have to give it a name. And you ha you have to understand too that that behavior doesn't carry with you forever. It doesn't. And like I said, forty nine years, fifty years. How dare other women question my h question me in my h thinking I'm hy hypersexual? Or that like how dare I even make a comment about their behavior? when I'm hypersexual. Cause that's that's a to me, that's a colonial construct. It's a subconscious construct that this white woman doesn't even know she's projected on me. But you know what? I've had all these years talking with forensic psychologists, social workers, therapists, studying psychology. No, you can you know, like that's the reality of it. Whatever I do in terms of my mental health and and calling out people, even if they don't want to be called out, I'm putting it on my podcast. It's it's a it's a dangerous society that we live in when we have people of privilege thinking that, you know, okay, this happened to me as a child. Yes, but you also have the audacity to to think that that whatever this indigenous person is doing, just because what, I'm not a professor at a university or I'm not a millionaire, like the whatever status w white society sees me as a woman, I mean I know it all women have have are struggling, but I am just saying that it's a lot harder for for white women to see women of color, whatever color our skin is It's it's very difficult for them to to let go because because it it means it means you're gonna be all by yourself. Marina Crane (52:39.825) I know I made a comment to to her about her friend who she lost her husband and I said I made a comment, I said, I think if she tries to be find a a partner that because she's so vulnerable in her grief that she's gonna find someone who is going to abuse her. And of course she stood up for her friend. But I'll use an example. the forensic person that I've known I knew for over thirty years. His daughter has I think sixty eight followers or something on Instagram or her podcast. her her partner, I think they were sexual for five years. They knew each other from high school and then he passed away like I think last year. And since then Her population her popularity on TikTok has has bloomed. She was even in I think a New New York People magazine, like even Go Fund Me. Like all these these white women and her white audience just gravitated to her grief. Like wouldn't that be nice if if they did that for murdered and missing indigenous women? But there's some sort of addiction to the the heroine, the heroine the the lady in distress, the damsel in distress. You know, when I talk about finding balance in your central nervous system, I I like I I said it y the I use the example of of gambling pornography and fast foods. Three three behaviors that you as an individual to regulate your boundaries by slowly elimin eliminating those for three months. So your central nervous system gets balanced. Well it's the it's the same thing too when somebody grieves. We we had a death and and even you can listen to your own heart when someone in your family has died and how you remember how you felt during the time you were preparing to bury them. See, this young man well he's not a young man, for me, he's a couple of years younger than me. When he passed away, always respectful of me, his children, family, like you know, I Marina Crane (55:05.717) I I couldn't go to his funeral because of the smoke. And and I wanted to. but when one of the relatives, one of his relatives called me and she says, Marina, I was there and I hugged them. She says, their bodies were just so hot. Just just she says, just holding them, I could just feel this radiating heat from their bodies. And and I said, That's their central nervous system kicking in because they're in shock. That someone they loved has died. I said, that's our central nervous system. This is why it's important to regulate your central nervous system because you don't know when death is going to come to someone you love. And how are you going to prepare yourself? Because there'll be somebody, especially if you're an indigenous elder woman, there is always someone, a child or a grandchild, someone in your family that's depending on you. And and so you have to take care of your central nervous system. You have to set aside self care. My friend in Edmonton is doing just that. And and it's important. It's in p an important validation because people are depending on us. There is a Sioux song, that it's a traditional Sioux song. And in the song it it talks about it talks about people like guard guarding yourself because People are depending on you. And and so with with that you you you have to look after yourself. You have to you know really decide w what what behaviors do you need to to just eliminate. And and I and I I know this is gonna be triggering, but but I'm gonna say it because it because I use it as an analogy with what Brandy Moran was talking about. in terms of murdered and missing indigenous women and girls or people. When when the average age for human trafficking is fourteen, when our when when our children are being groomed and they're they're being taken, the they'll they'll the the people who do the most the people who who who do the grooming, sixty percent of them are female. So Marina Crane (57:31.147) what happens and this is this is like the thing is like for four days they will lock the child in a room and have people go in there for hours and hours and just have sex with these these children. For four days their their body temperature rises because their central nervous system has been under attack. So again after after the fourth day and this grueling four days of your body temperature being that high 'cause like understand, even when someone passes and you you get this extreme headaches. Like like that again, that's that's because your central nervous system has been under attack. So after the fifth day they put they put the child or the they put them in a room to cool for the bodies to cool down. And if the body does not cool down, then what happens is they die. But if their if their body has cooled down, then they're ready to be have it multiple sexual partners in a day. So this central nervous system and finding balance is important. And and it's vitally important too when people understand soldiers who go to war and how their central nervous system has totally been bastardized and the need to find some balance, like to have support groups and places like things in place. And when you're a child and you've been traumatized in Indian residential school, like I said, the generations, my parents' age, my grandparents' age, that that went went and tried to create curriculum through Nietzsche Institute and and and and society, you know, put taking the funding away bec because it they said it's a federal jurisdiction or like they want to privatize h the health system in Alberta. Cer certain things like you don't really think about until like I said, until y it it it if y like when you're when you're looking about well I I I don't know anybody I'm not associated with people who are trafficked. Yes, you you you you are. You you are even if even if you don't Marina Crane (59:57.036) really want to admit it. It's it's it's part it's just part of the whole the whole nature of Trying to control trying to control women. Now, if I can find this song, this is a song that the Sioux the Sioux women have been singing for for decades. and it has to do with with you know, looking after our central nervous system because people are depending on us. And so, you know, I hope I hope that's I hope that helps because if I can find this song I'll play it for you. I don't normally do this but it just seems like I'm meant to do this. Again to I hope people who are investigating and trying to understand how you can help in eliminating this whole gener five five hundred years of of hunting indigenous women and children. Like that's the reality. and I'm I praise all these young young influencers on TikTok and social media for putting putting themselves on the line and and trying to get this information out. So, now I'm not sure. I'm going to there are different songs. And I don't wanna stop I don't wanna stop the the recording because it just it just means I'll have to edit and and that's for me Marina Crane (01:01:45.599) It's i I I I'm not that good of a guru when it comes to editing my podcasts. And if I can't find can't find it, well I'm sorry, that's Marina Crane (01:02:04.993) I'm sorry, I did I usually had everything all all put up in the first place. Marina Crane (01:02:15.469) Hmm. Let me try this one. Let's see if it's Marina Crane (01:03:18.313) Shall I Shema! Shame on. Marina Crane (01:04:15.277) Okay, here it is. Mm-hmm. Marina Crane (01:05:34.989) Here's here here's another one. Marina Crane (01:05:54.775) Hey yeah. Marina Crane (01:06:00.108) Yeah, Marina Crane (01:06:16.926) Okay. May have a creature. Marina Crane (01:07:02.389) We are we are we call we are kidd Aqui, tia papai. Niopirataya we chagaya oyatigiya Wachiniam Marina Crane (01:08:40.141) Titch, my boy, yo. Eopivia we chakechaya Hoyatya Wachinayampeo. Marina Crane (01:09:09.963) So that's it's really rare that that I will you will ever catch me singing. But some of the first two chords or the two sentences they've been changed slightly from what I understood. But it's a woman's song that's talking about never giving up because people are depending on you. And that's a matriarchal system. So again, the formula for you know just finding balance with your central nervous system is in is vital. But it but it means that you have to be open to who you're attracted to. You you need to validate that within your sexual identity. You cannot suppress it. And and at the same time the boundaries that you put in place needs to be reciprocated from the person that you're attracted to. So anyway, I wanted to share that with you because again there are so many murdered and missing indigenous women and girls and two spirited people. I I I will I will play this like I said, the the the I think I think I I've got her down here or d do I? Actually I may not. Okay. I will play this woman's again, her name is Brandy Moran and she's young indigenous investigative reporter. And her insight into what's happening in the United States will call it Indian country, and in Canada we'll call it with First Nations Inuit and Metis communities. Now I want you to understand, too, it's only been in the past two years that the Canadian government has recognized the nine Sioux tribes in Canada as being indigenous. It's only been in the past two years that the Canadian government has recognized Inuit and Metis as being indigenous as well. So this whole concept. Marina Crane (01:11:12.879) construct when it comes to when it comes to like what the law is and who is indigenous and who isn't all these changes are taking place and it's vital that those people especially young people who seem to be lost in their identity need to understand exactly what's going on and even when you do you need to have patience with those elders who live and have never left First Nations anywit or Metis communities that this is their their security. This is this is this is something that their central nervous system has has attached itself. So I'll play Brandy Mourne's Anse, did you know that indigenous women are the fastest growing population in Canada's federal prisons? We're about five percent of the female population in this country, but we make up nearly half of the women locked up in federal custody. In some facilities it's over seventy percent and it's not random. It's not because we're more dangerous or more criminal or or whatever excuse this country wants to reach for. It's colonialism. Still doing exactly what it was built to do. Residential schools, broken child welfare systems, poverty, generations of trauma. This country has never actually invested in healing. All of it funneling our women straight into cells. And here's the part that most people don't talk about. This is connected to the crisis of our Missing and murdered indigenous women and girls. It's the same root causes, the same systems failing us, and sometimes it's the same woman. She survives one thing only to be swallowed by the other. I know this isn't abstract because I lived it. I was 13 years old the first time I went to jail. Marina Crane (01:13:11.851) Now I'm not gonna tell you the whole story here. I wrote it out in full because it deserves more than 60 seconds. But I'll tell you this, I made it out. So many of our women that I met along the way didn't. And some of them I can still name. Some of them I've had to grieve. This country has known about this crisis for years. Commissions have named it, inquiries have named it, and the numbers keep climbing anyway. I wrote about my own story, the women I lost, and what's actually being done and what isn't to fix this. It's up now on Indigenous Insider. Links in my bio. Go read it. Hi hi. Marina Crane (01:13:59.052) That's Brandy Morin. You can find her on TikTok. And I'll pl I'm gonna play this the the the psychiatr the psychiatrists talk about the psychology of hypersexuality and and again the the money that needs to be in place to help indigenous people heal from hypersexuality. Is possible but yet like like like it's that woman that keeps on coming back and being abused over and over again, never healing. And and so it's important that people you know start to look at healing in a different different way and understanding that it's possible to heal. I'm Professor Ahmed Hankir. I'm a consultant psychiatrist, and today I want to talk about a topic that isn't discussed nearly enough: hypersexuality. It's a taboo subject, but we need to talk about it. Because for some people, it can have profound consequences. Hypersexuality isn't simply having a high sex drive, it refers to sexual thoughts, urges, or behaviors that become difficult to control. Control and begin causing distress, risk, or significant problems in someone's life. One of the best recognized causes is bipolar disorder. During manic or hypomanic episodes, changes in brain function can lead to increased reward seeking, reduced inhibition, impulsivity, and overconfidence. For some people, this can result in a sudden surge in sexual desire and risky sexual behavior. This might include multiple. Sexual partners, sex with strangers, compulsive pornography use, compulsive masturbation, spending excessive amounts of money on sexual services, or crossing personal or relationship boundaries. Hypersexuality can also occur in some people with ADHD, certain personality disorders, substance use disorders, and some neurological conditions. Hypersexuality can affect anyone. However, in a disinhibited state, some individuals may become more. Marina Crane (01:16:27.231) Vulnerable to coercion, exploitation, trauma, or sexual assault. When the episode or period of dysregulation passes, many people are left carrying immense shame, bar embarrassment, guilt, or confusion. Relationships can break down, careers can be damaged. There may also be risks such as sexually transmitted infections, unplanned pregnancies, financial difficulties, or legal consequences. It's important to say this clearly. Understanding the role of mental illness. Does not excuse harmful behavior or remove personal responsibility, but it does help us understand why these experiences occur and how we can support recovery without shame or stigma. Treatment depends on the underlying cause for bipolar disorder. Moose stabilizers can be highly effective. Psychological therapies can also help people develop insight, improve impulse control, and reduce risk. If you recognize yourself or someone you love in what I've described, please don't suffer in silence. Honest conversations with the mental Health professional can be life-changing. Hypersexuality can sometimes be a symptom of an underlying mental health condition rather than a reflection of someone's values or character. Let's replace shame with understanding, stigma with compassion, and silence with honest conversation. I hope you found that helpful. As always, protect your minds and protect your hearts. And When I talk about limerence and I talk about the need to have guided like you need you really have to have shop around and find a good therapist, one who has boundaries. There are a lot of white women out there who don't who are therapists who do not have healthy boundaries. But that's not to say, too, that there are white men who are therapists. They s I mean it it you have to shop around. You have you have to understand too that the whole process of being in a relationship with a mental health worker means that that you have to work at it. At the same time, too, you you have to develop support systems in place to help Marina Crane (01:18:39.405) you help you regulate your central nervous system because this is all based on like obtrusive thoughts or vulnerability. again when people have been victimized and they they become victims of other people and they come out of it with shame. So like it's one thing it's one thing to to be a victim and have the courage to actually go to court and and face your abuser. It's another thing to have support when when the person is prosecuted and that you're you're still in recovery and that that support needs to help you regulate your central nervous system. There'll be relapse and recovery coming out throughout your life in in months, years, weeks, decades. But the reality of it is every ten years our identity changes. Our our how we see ourselves and how we interact with other people is is vitally important. My whole point on the podcast as an Indigenous woman is is to say to to women, non Indigenous women, stop pointing the finger at at Indigenous women as being hypersexual or that we are as Brandy Morren says, you know, there that there's something the matter with us. This has been systemic. Like I said, the first one hundred years of colonization, they killed five generations of our children. And and even how they scalped they looked for women who were pregnant, gutted their bellies and took their baby scalp and theirs. They created a town in South Dakota just for that. The whole systemic colonial way of thinking of what indigenous women are. Now the fact that as indigenous women We have to also look after ourselves, our relatives, and to make sure that that they don't become violent and aggressive and just really terrible women. You know, in my community, and I'm just f finishing this off, is and and again in in Indigenous First Nations in communities, when women have married into our communities because of this colonial construct. Marina Crane (01:21:03.457) They they're very aggressive, very manipulative, gaslighting, and and they continue that throughout their lives. They're they are more demanding to leadership in getting things done than than the women and and the young men who've actually grown up here in our communities. So so for me I'm talking from experience, and this is my own personal opinion. I'm seventy four. What have I got to lose? Like, you know, people can look at me and and I'll say, sh look and see what I have. But then you look at somebody who's been married in, and even when they were married in at fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, and you wonder, okay, how how is this trafficked? Was this person trafficked? So this whole dichotomy of colonization and how how the Indian aff how the Indian Act has polarized indigenous women from different communities and how we perceive what mental health and what hypersexuality is or isn't. the wh this whole colonial construct of like being the Virgin Mary or is is an impossible, impossible goal to achieve. But but the realistic goal is is to just be able to have open conversation with another human being. So with that I hope I've given you some more insight. but like differ different things on TikTok really trigger me to use them in my podcast. And and again, my life is constantly changing. when I first came back from Nevada I I had given up some friends and and the ones who who made the effort to contact me again have. and and that's just the way life is. But but there's also a give and take too the the white woman that I depended on so much has ghosted me. And the white man that I traveled with to Las Vegas like you know, up he's he's struggling, you know, he's has to maintain his livelihood and and do what he needs to do to, you know, live the the best life he can. But but I do want to, you know, encourage people to know that there are people, one of the psychologists with her PhD in eliminating self defeating behavior had said, you'll find invisible helping hands. And and so this white man Marina Crane (01:23:33.609) in my podcast and what I've been talking about in terms of healthy human sexuality i is an invisible helping hand. And and you'll we we will meet all these these different people throughout our life, right right until we're s it's time to go home and our b our our bodies are are placed in in burial site. We we are living the best life we can. So with that, you know, take comfort in knowing There are invisible helping hands helping you guide your way through this life. We are not alone. Even though we may live alone and not have a partner, we are never alone.

Sunday, 26 July 2026

Indigenous women must be seen

Marina Crane (00:01.144) Good morning. It's July twenty sixth, twenty twenty six. well the smoke is still here and I'm just waking up. and I'm trying to be as nonchalant as I can and do what I can with what I've written down. So anyway, A lot of times when I go and I'm bored, I'll go on TikTok and I've I find it's really interesting to listen to young indigenous w activists, indigenous women and men. And so there are two podcasts that from this lady who I think like really is helps self-educate or helps w us as indigenous people identify, especially what it means to be an Indigenous woman. There's a little bit of a bias, like like I try not to put too much emphasis on on cultural differences, but but I do realize like there is some sort of manifestation in our political view, especially being colonized, in in terms of how under the Indian Act we've constructed some biases when it comes to women who marry into our communities. Or just the women who do marry, how much they bully and and really manipulate. I know that's biased. I mean what I'm trying to say is that throughout my life here, most of the women who've run for politics are women who've married in I don't know, just this past election, s five of the women, I think it's five or six of the women actually grew up here that are that have been voted in. So There is there are changes happening and and I'm grateful, but at the same time too a lot of this colonized way of thinking, really we really have to take a look at well, for me, I I take a look at it and ask myself, how has the Indian Act affected me? Especially when it comes to the trafficking of our children. And sometimes we don't even understand what it is to be trafficked. and again this is my own bias because I've Marina Crane (02:27.574) I've never been married or have children or even lived with a a partner. So what makes me an expert, well, I'm not an expert, that's what I'm trying to say. But I d but I do know that that if I had somehow decided to be in a relationship, it would have been really strained because again of the lateral violence and the misogyny, people, es especially women from other communities who marry in have against the women who grow grow up in the communities that their partners l live in. I don't know if it has to do with insecurity or what, but the majority of times too, because a lot of the places that like for Sutina, we're right by city, so a lot of the things that I've become used to, a lot of non indigenous well, no, not indigeno non indigenous A lot of indigenous men say that I'm a princess and I'm going, What do you mean? 'Cause I take offense when somebody says, you're a princess Well because I'm only five minutes from Tim Hortons or or movie theaters or even the hospital or the the malls and so I I grew up that way. I I grew up playing hooky from my school to go to a shopping mall or or you know, hang out in the downtown parkate parkade just just to skip out of school. So th my life How I grew up around white people is different than say women who've lived their whole life in an isolated northern community or southern community and they marry into Sutina. again, too, during the stampede, my cousins and I, when we'd go partying in the city, we'd say we'd see once a year Indians, once a year indigenous people, because you know, like it's only t it's it's just a ritual thing growing up. that there weren't that many indigenous people actually living in the city. Now today there's like forty thousand Indigenous people. So again, I'm talking about generational and gaps in in how people perceive what it is to be indigenous. But in historical sense though, a lot of times because you're growing up in poverty, like say for example, gee, maybe thirty years ago, maybe a little less. I Marina Crane (04:48.342) my my late brother pa he married. I f I I I came up from the United States to witness his wedding and to my surprise the community where he his partner was from there were a lot of teenagers, like children. Children having children. I couldn't believe it. But yet at the same time, even in the past twenty years and when I talked to women in my community who have partners who come from northern communities and I talk about trafficking. It's it's the whole concept of parents marrying off their ch their daughters when they're like fifteen and sixteen. Now, historically here in Soutina too, there've been quite a few child brides. And and I say child brides 'cause like what your your body still isn't fully developed to even to even be like yeah, you have sexual arousal but the whole enjoyment of human sexuality isn't isn't really set in place until your body is mature. Now again, I might be just redundant and repeating something you already know. But but what I'm trying to say is the whole concept of trafficking when when you're so poor that you cannot look after your your daughters or even afford to help them you know, like save money and help them get into university or high school. And and so when they become sexually active they they marry them marry them out. so they leave their communities to to another community. And when you're that young coming into a foreign community, then how do you how do you adjust to that? Because in a in a way it's a form of trafficking. Because because like you're you're still a child. That's that's how I think it's been normalized. But there's also some other complications involved with the Indian Act and how the Indian Act treated and handled indigenous women in terms of like property and and what is what is a status or non status and just the whole racial bias created when a woman gets pregnant. Like like that's hard to understand. But it but again too, I think a lot of white women sort of feel like they have some sort of moral obligation. Marina Crane (07:10.156) to say, well, this is how my life is. You know, your sexuality is no different than mine. I was promiscuous. I did this and that. And I'm going, yes, that's the human experience. But there is a difference in terms of decolonizing oneself and the fact that a lot of the concepts of who we see we who we are as indigenous women is is played out by by the greater society. So So, you know, it's it's no biggie when when I have a friend who's seventy five and says, Yeah, you know, these cowboys they sure like Indian girls. Hey, what can I say? You know, that's that's just the way things are. People from other countries see th other people, other women as exotic. but again too, you know, what what what is what are the boundaries? And who's responsible for putting these boundaries up? So I just got off the phone with my cousin and she's indigenous and I was talking to her, I said, You know, some friends they come and they go and she said, Well, Marina, that's life and I said, Yes. I said, right until the bitter end when it we take our last breath, you know, we're there's there's not gonna be it it's all it's just the way it is. We we make friends and then that we go our separate ways. And and so, you know, I I was saying that to her. I said, My whole life I've I've been around white women and And sometimes it's the hypocrisy or the projection of of privilege. I made a comment, I said it it's really difficult for me to accept white women and white men as mental health workers that come into our communities, especially when they have a preconceived notion of what it's like to live in our communities when really their only reference point is from point of privilege. And and my goodness, you know, How dare an indigenous woman do a critique on you when like see, th th there's a bias right there. So that's why when I talk about sexuality and identity, even though we're the same gender, the colon colonial construct created under the Indian Act and how people have lived that way, like in in a conscious in a conscious way, without even Marina Crane (09:34.838) like understanding that this is what they're doing, this this this shadow effect of how women marry into our communities. It's a psychological thing of privilege in some ways because they're basically mansplaying to indigenous women. This is what you do. This is how you it's like basically I'm I'm I mean I make making fun because this is so real. I I've seen it, I've witnessed it, I've had white women say, This is how you do this. Or this is you know, don't throw water on the ground or or give out the these gifts, these free gifts in in the sacred directions. You know, like where did they learn this bullshit? And why do they think it's so beneath them to to, you know, like understand like you're you're talking to an indigenous woman who's grown up around spirituality or indigenous spirituality and here you are coming in, latching onto somebody who's indigenous, having sex with them and living with them and thinking, okay, therefore I know I have knowledge because I respect my partner. No, no, it doesn't work that way. That's that's for white women. But the majority of times too when I talk about women marrying into my community, These are the these are non ind these are indigenous women. Because again, it has to bring that mindset of of like what what it is that they're they're bringing into our community. And studies have shown that too, like most of the time, uneducated attract uneducated, educated attract educated, wealthy r attracts wealthy, etcetera. But the reality of it is that at that there there is there is some nonsense that has that has been handed down from the Indian agent about how indigenous men should treat their the the women in their families. the Indian agent always took took Indians as property and and even in terms of I use the example of Brittany Spears and how she became a her f her parents became guardian. Marina Crane (11:54.594) Well, that's how the federal government is towards us when it comes to Crown Land and and the and and our our trust fund. So anyway, this young woman, she's she's talking about this bill, bill C two, a bill that started in the Senate and needs to be passed for any of these changes to become law. Now this is a really brilliant young woman. So she puts it that simply bill s two. is proposed legislation that would seek amendments to the Indian Act. So you have to understand every time that Indian Act has been in place and every change to it has to go through this process, even even for the to change the set of of indigenous women from the time that they would marry non-Indigenous or non-status, they would lose everything. So if they were a matriarch all of a sudden just through having a different partner from a different culture. you y the federal government recog took away your identity as an i as an indigenous person, you were no longer considered indigenous. However, it worked the opposite for our men. They could marry a white woman and automatically she would inherit this indigenous woman status. Blonde, blue eyed, she's an indigenous woman. the courts would defend her up and up and down, so she had double privilege. So yeah, the bias on that still lingers even in the sense of like when women marry indigenous women marry within the community because they they feel like their status has has been has improved because they're not from the community like like a white woman who marries in within. There's a certain privilege that that the federal government has recognized. And again at at whose fault? At the fault of the indigenous women women like myself who've grown up here my entire life. So this young woman says, she's seeing a lot of people that think are k and think are confused about this and think that the government just wants to open the floodgates and a bunch of pretendiums are going to come into the w the the woodwork. But that's not really what's going to happen, she says. Essentially it's restoring what was lost, more specifically to women and their descendants because of the sexist and colonial policies. Marina Crane (14:21.548) See, that's what I'm talking about. There like when I say I have white uncles, it's because of this policy, this colonial sextus policy. and some other changes that are being proposed, she says, are things like changing the outdated language because right on right now under the Indian Act, indigenous people with disabilities are referred to as mentally incompetent Indians. Okay, so even that I mean, like okay, for newcomers, immigrants, white people, black people, like really this Indian Act governs how leadership identifies band members, indigenous like First Nations Inuit and Matee. Now understand this too. Only the past two years has the federal government acknowledged indigenous status of of the seven of the I think it's nine Sioux tribes in Canada, as well as the Inuit and Metis in Canada. Only two like a two years ago. So so that means like my mom and my aunties and my grandparents who are Dakota Sioux weren't recognized as indigenous people until two years ago. So even though they're they're sitting on Crown land and they have reserves or Metis sett settlements or Inuit settlements. they still were not considered indigenous until two years ago. So so you under you have to understand the the the the the practice, the systemic racist practice of who and h was d who was defined as being indigenous. Now the ch she says that they want change that di to that to they want to change that to dependent persons. Just th the the identity of like like that they're incompetent in mentally incompetent Indians to just dependent peep person. And it would also create things like a very clear process for people that want to their names removed from the Indian registry. So essentially removing yourself from being certified as an India's status and another thing is that it would do is to see people that are newly eligible for status also be eligible to be Marina Crane (16:41.994) added to the BAM list. Because in Canada, if you are a First Nations person that belongs to a nation that is under the Indian Act, the federal government actually maintains those lists. So that's why like even when my sister married a Navajo, she she she lost her status because he's he's can in Canada we don't recognize Native Americans from the United States. So any indigenous woman who married an Amer a Native American from the United States, she would lose her status as well. Now, again, that's federal policy. So so w w when they when the co the Indian Act was changed, so women who were allowed to marry whoever they wanted that didn't have status, they'd still remain there they'd still remain indigenous under this Indian Act. And they were put on a general ban list in Ottawa. So this is what this young woman is talking about. The even though th they they're gonna change this bill, it it it's a process. And and and throughout the decades that I've talked to indigenous people who whose grandmothers or mothers are indigenous, I've say keep a record. Keep marriage records, birth certificates, everything. I said because your the status is going to change and when it does, you need to have those records because even you're put on the general list in in Ottawa, the application for an individual to make to become a band member is based on the mem the band membership codes that each tribe created for themselves. Like with with the the Code Sioux, they automatically just accepted everybody. Because again, they weren't even considered indigenous until two years ago. So every way and every which way People have tried to erase indigenous ways of knowing or the culture has been part of this Indian Act. And and no matter how much people say, well I get it, no, you really don't because you've never lived it. So so again, in both or this young woman is saying, both in the House of Commons and the Senate, as long as it doesn't sp spend tax tayers doll taxpayers' dollars, which is how it originated in the Senate, it already passed a first reading and second reading. Marina Crane (19:03.926) And now it's in the consideration in committee. Senate and House of Commons committees are a very important part of the process because places like committees is where these amendments were made and voted on. So here's where it gets interesting. This this is her saying this. This bill needs to go through the House of Commons and it needs to be passed through the House of Commons. But if the House of Commons decides that they also want to make amendments To this bill, it needs to be sent back to the Senate to either reject or approve those amendments. And then what has to happen is the House of Commons and the Senate both need to pass the same version of the bill. And then it receives royal assent and becomes law. And then these changes take effect. So throughout the patriarchy and the matriarchy struggle. struggle of balance. This whole process of going through the House of Commons, the Senate, the readings and going back and forth to make it law is so time consuming and so structured. I I use the analogy it's like it's like a sexual assault victim and and how you know the the victim has to document everything and and the investigators, you know, in investigate her. Then it's gotta go to the judge and then they whether or not it's a case. Then if it's a case then they gotta arrest the person that the whole judicial process under Court of King's Branch is the same in the in terms of legislation and even changing parts of the Indian Act that was so discriminatory and still is discriminatory towards indigenous women and like just and children, okay? So she says it's very condensed version of what the Bill C what Bill S two is. And no, it does not open the floodgates and it does not make a bunch of people indigenous. Essentially what it does is address the fact that people were removed or forced out of their legal status was be because of discriminator policies. So this discriminatory policies, as as redundant as some people might think it is, has had a total impact on how indigenous women see other indigenous women. Marina Crane (21:30.038) Or even when Indigenous women marry into communities that are culturally different than them, that have totally different band membership policies, all this is an orientation or oriented to the the woman coming into the community. Because the prejudice is that for me as an Indigenous woman, I cannot bring a man into my community, which is again discriminatory. And because of that, I don't have status. And even my children wouldn't have status because of the Indian Act and the and the representation of it. So so I jokingly say, well, I have white uncles. Again, the majority of my white uncles are married to Dakota women, which again until two years ago weren't even considered indigenous. So so there is there is a lot of expectation when it comes to like who who is indigenous and how traditional Are you? Like really that what it they they do they bring in spirituality to this whole equation. And that's why like for me as a as an indigenous woman, I don't claim to be a spiritual healer, nothing like that. Because because I've seen it play out in in our indigenous men with their with their women that you know they've they brought into the communities. So this woman says, for example, A lot of women in my community no, I'm saying this is what I'm saying. like they've lost their status and the whole fact is that when you have misogyny and lateral violence, it it comes to the identity of indigenous woman, it attacks the identity of a indigenous woman. So the ideology of the colonial way of thinking is that a woman's pe is a piece of property and therefore her children are also a commodity and be can be pushed around and moved around. And see, that's where the discriminatory part of the child welfare system comes in, because we don't have sovereignty over that because we as Indigenous women do not have sovereignty under the Indian Act. And so therefore, if we try to have group homes or or or shelters for our our children in our communities, we we we can't do that because we it's under the Indian Act. And so Marina Crane (23:54.935) Like in order to change that we have to have educated Indigenous people in those areas to develop the policies because eventually those policies will take be taken over by by local government, much like the education policy was taken over. And even then it was a struggle and still is a struggle in in how the tripart agreements are being held between the federal and provincial judiciary process or the fiduciary. obligations that are passed down through treaty. T R E A T Y. Treaty. That's why I'm saying it's a source of it's a catalyst to trafficking. Now like my concerns and the thing about it is like when women choose to be single and have children, the majority of the women don't get housing. or they're at the bottom of the economic spectrum. And so, you know, in order to have sort of like that disp this disparity is is that if you're you grew up here and you decided to have not be married and just keep your status, all your children would have your name, your your your maiden name. They won't have their father's name. And at the same time too, even if you applied for a home You don't you don't have a partner 'cause you chose to not be with a partner because it would be there'd be some disparity in how ban funds are allocated to you. So if you're an indigenous man and you marry an indigenous woman or or white woman and and they're in the community, then all of a sudden you can apply for a house and and you could get it. Even if you don't have children. And again, this is a discriminatory towards women who choose to be single mothers. Or even if you're you're a teenage pregnancy, anything where it has to do with you know women trying to take care of their children, their babies. And and then again because of the disparity of poverty, the woman is looked at as like incompetent or or basically like what they they called like for disa d disabilities. Marina Crane (26:19.929) how they treat in the Indian Act, how they treat people with disabilities. Well that's the same parallel in how they treat indigenous women who've grown up within their communities. And again, this is my opinion, 'cause I've seen it, I've grown it, I've smelt it, I've tasted it, I've thrown up. Anyway, so th the sooner a girl is married off, the the you know, the better off it is for her to to actually get a home and have like a male somebody who owns her and her children. And and again, you know, like it's it's sort of self-defeating when it comes to like like the disparity because then then they look at women who've grown up here and wonder, well why why are you so why do you have such self-defeating behavior? When look at me, I'm from a poorer community. I've got all this culture and you're just so culturally deprived. I mean, it's my opinion, because I mean lateral violence, where did it start from and why why do why do women who marry in are why and this is my own personal opinion, but you can ask any woman who's grown up in their First Nations anyway or Metis communities, you know, you ask them, like women who marry in, are they are they friend or foe? And You know, th that's the reality of our policies that are made in terms of housing, who gets housing, who gets certain perks for for just living in the community. So the more a man is perceived as being like the breadwinner, or the more again because of colonial constructs. so again, if if you marry a white man and your status has improved because You just they just think, well he's your provider. And but again too, they they they neglect to understand the cultural facet of it is that you lose your matern maternal support system that you grew up with. And so like Marina Crane (28:35.181) staying like say with I I'll I'll use an example. There was a young woman who was staying with her uncle and aunt and the aunt had married in. And the aunt worked, was trained by colonial Indian agent to be an office administrator. And because of that she worked and and the and the man that she married was a farmer, mechanic, jack of all trades. And she was collecting like she had a a babysitter, one of the the the her ha her partner's relative without the partner knowing what his part his indigenous wife was doing she was collecting not only she was collecting social assistance for the babysitter but as well as not paying the babysitter for babysitting and and taking care of their children. So that kind of we'll call it narcissism or vac Machiavellian ways of thinking for women who've moved who've married in thinking that, you know, like, I I've gotta try and get the best out of what I my situation here because look at look at my partner. You know, I mean th that in itself is is very like it's the the re the reality of of women being so cruel to other women and and yet You know, you wonder where did they get that from? And and like I said, this woman who married in she's a serv she's a survivor of Indian residential school and also denying that she has any historical trauma, as she she notably says, that was in the past. But the reality of it is that you still see it in how scared her her excuse me, her daughters are of her. Because because her partner had passed away. Marina Crane (30:35.118) So there are so many things there's so many things that excuse me when I'm growing up here in Sutana and you're on this healing journey trying to understand who you are and why things are are are done or policies made to keep you in your place. Like I said, doing the first day care. the first detox just so I could have a place to s to stay rather than going into the city and paying rent. I was I was in my early twenties. Like so, you know, this is a reality. This is my reality. This is my opinion. And again to the policies that anybody under the age of fifty five who was single and had no children could not apply for housing. Because again, you know you gotta look at it historically as well as the reality of today. The majority of women, more than fifty percent, are the main administrators, the main like doctors, lawyers, Indian chiefs. And yet unless you're a chief, a female chief, you don't have a voice at the national, like at the AFN. So this this discriminatory policy goes right through the whole system and then we have our men wondering, what is the matter with our women? Well, the audacity of the fact that for years, you know, you're you're okay to to, you know, bring in women but not honor the women, your sisters, your mothers, your aunts who actually grew up in the community. That's why I think things are changing, 'cause the majority of our our our young coun counselors are women who've actually grown up here. And and again too, like it's it's not it's not like easy. You take on this political role and you're gonna get criticized and you have to take it. You have to. You can't be going around, you know, just putting stuff on Facebook and social media and crying and saying, How dare you do this and that and you know, th it's it's time to, you know, like sort of what do they say, smarten up buttercup. anyway, like there's so much violence that happens Marina Crane (32:58.54) within homes and then you know people like how how do they how do you help? How do you help people who who you know are victims of violence when they don't want help? Now I the the s the basic psychology of it is like when somebody overdoses in the city and and they're laying semi conscious on the ground and the ambulance and the fire department come and the person gets up and they say, Well, do you need help? and they say no, then then they walk away. The person could overdose, but they chose they denied help. Well it's the same thing with violence when I've seen women being beaten up in public and I go and s tell the husband to leave her alone, then I'm attacked by the wife to say to tell me to s to stay out of her business. you know, because, you know, she's being beaten. I mean the laws have changed now. So they found out that at at least a year or so after the violence has occurred, then a woman sort of gets this epiphany, like, this is injustice. So so now they protect the victims of violence, like women and men who are victims of violence. But again to it makes policing all the more at risk when you go into family violence situations where, you know, the woman's trying to defend herself and yet at the same time protect her partner. She can chur she can turn on the person who's rescuing her. Okay, so again That's why like when it comes to people who hear say about sexual violence and they say, the other this this this woman was drunk and this leader took her into her hotel room. And I'm and I'm going, but you're y you took a video of the her being drunk? Why didn't you go up to her and say, Let's have a coffee? Or, you know, why didn't you talk to this alleged victim? And again Marina Crane (35:05.254) it's the the victim isn't telling the story. It's the woman who watched the woman behave in a certain manner, that she's putting judgment on the the man, but yet it's the victim if she actually again That's why I state, if you're gonna press charges, it's gotta come from the victim. You can't be the like like it's like me, if I see somebody being beaten up and I go and I tell the guys, Don't beat your wife and she says, Leave leave us alone, you know, I have to walk away. If if if if a man's overdosing and and I say, Well, I'm getting help and he says, No, I don't want help, I have to go away. So, you know, that's why I'm saying it's one thing to call wolf and and think that you're doing justice by advocating against violence. It's another thing to be the victim and to realize like the victim has to make the statement. It's the victim who has to say, This is this person hurt me. Nobody else can do it. So that's why I caution people, be careful. Be careful careful of how you're mansplaying things on behalf that you think on are be on behalf of all women when really it's it's the victim that you haven't talked with. So and the majority of times too, even like when when you deal with your well, personally, just my opinion is that my dealing with my life and how I manage or don't manage boundaries. That's that's my responsibility. That's my journey in this life. And and you know, as old as I am as and as an elder, I'm constantly learning these things. It it's it's amazing to me that that it's important that I mean Marina Crane (36:58.316) I don't wanna make it sound like like I'm so codependent, but there is there is a a dance of intimacy where where the man has you know, he puts down the boundaries. And and as the woman you're understanding those boundaries. But it should be the same thing too with women and other women. When you're talking you know, as women we need to put boundaries down with other women. I find more so with indigenous women when it comes to to white women or other women that we we do not put boundaries down with other women when we need to. B because you know, that's the lesson that men teach have taught me. And not like physically saying like a teacher sitting me down and showing me the A B C's. It has to do with how I understand my own sexuality. and and to understand like when a man is comfortable or or uncomfortable. It's it's the same thing in any relationship, male or female. Boundaries are important. Because because some people when when you they don't have those in place, they take offense when when you start putting boundaries down and you're you're you're wondering what changed. Well, say for example for me, my attitude has changed. I'm I'm really grateful that, you know, I I was taught this by by a man about boundaries. I mean, it's not like like I just learned it. It's it's a validation. I guess that's the proper way of putting it. Throughout my life, the validation of boundaries w when talking to men is is vital. But it should also take another step forward when it comes to women as well, because we're responsible as women to look after our own mental health. And so that that's part of what I wanted to talk about with my podcast 'cause it is it's a bit discerning or concerning in the sense that, you know, throughout my life I've had to walk away from friends. Marina Crane (39:02.72) You know, people that I've I get close to and then some something happens and I just realize, okay, the boundaries have been crossed. Either I crossed them or they crossed me and and that's just the way it is. So we walk away from people. so anyway, this woman who's talking about Bill S to, when she says it's like what is status. Once you get to your status you have you have to put you're put on the general list and you have an th then once you're put on the list then you have to go the protocols of what it is you need to get voted on. So even though you know you're on the general list in Ottawa, you still have to be voted on as a actual tribal member, either in First Nations, Inuit, or Metis communities. And all and every indigenous person, I don't care how much lies or mansplaying from from pretendiums. There is a paper trail with both First Nations, Inuit and Metis right back to their to the land. There's no getting around it. And and if when this bill s two passes and you have all your documentation, you're get you'll get put on the general ban list in Ottawa. However, you need to go to your original place where your grandmother or your par your mother or somebody lost their status 'cause there were women, you need to make application to be voted back into the general like the actual list where you can vote for people for your chief and counsel. Marina Crane (40:50.036) It's it's been here for a couple of decades in my community and it's been, you know, noted that we needed time to figure these things out for ourselves. A lot of other tribes, like I said, with the Sioux, they just automatically accepted everybody back because they didn't they weren't recognized as indigenous people in Canada until two years ago. So even Inuit and Metis, so for all those people who are pretending or think that they're indigenous, you know, smarten up buttercups. You're good if you have those records, you'll be put on the general list in Ottawa. However, if you've got enough courage to actually make application to be on a the a be belong to a First Nations, Inuit or Metis communities, you have to apply to the local leadership. And if you have relatives who live in those communities, then you have nothing to fear. And if you've been able to advocate for those communities and those communities know you, then you have no problem in being voted on. So that's the gist of it. If you like I said, I There there's just there's just so much in terms of matriarchy in Western Canada and and just how things uncovered when it came to those Indian residential schools d dissolving. Because you gotta understand the historical context of it is that Alberta had more Indian residential schools because of oil. a lot of the human trafficking and and all the disruptions in terms of even trying to get monies out of the province or the federal government's fiduciary obligation under the treaties, they've been trying to Marina Crane (42:41.196) pass it off to the province. And that's why you have this lawsuit with this recovery center, because it was the way of Daniel Smith passing off federal dollars that would come in from Ottawa to the province and siphon it to First Nations. When really it's a fiduciary obligation from the federal government. Now all this stuff, this paperwork and this trail of lawyers all understanding what's been happening is cause for concern and it's cause for concern for Indigenous people. Because all the the work and the effort to heal and have people understand what it is to to go through the healing process has been erased by by separatists. Or people who who don't understand the Indian Act or don't understand the history of Canada or even the history of Alberta or even the history of Calgary. So the importance of of why you are who you are and why the government is the way it is today i is all a result of of the colonial constructs called the Indian Act. which is a discriminatory bill trying to erase the status of indigenous people through the exploitation of indigenous women and their children, which again is is a fiduciary obligation to protect women and children by the federal government, which has failed miserably And again they projected onto First Nations as being inappropriate, that that we don't know what the hell we're doing because again they all they have to do is refer to the Indian Act because it's law. So for indigenous people to just change a law, this young woman has explained the process that you have to go through and even then when they want to put a wrench in it, it goes back in for an amendment. And it takes years to change. Marina Crane (44:39.98) So we're born into this systemic racist system. And the more young people understand, you know, like the origin of the Indian Act, the or the treaties first, the treaties first, Indian Act, Indian industrial schools, Indian residential schools, that's all grooming. It's all grooming. And and again, how well are we groomed? If if we can't even step back and look and say, there were no boundaries. I didn't know this. Yes, you can only plead ignorance for a certain amount of time. Then after that, who's accountable? And it it may s seem confusing to some people, but that's the reality of of what, you know, I've I've been born into. That's why when I say matriarchy, you you have to be born into it. you you know, you you live it, you breathe it, you taste it, you smell it. and and for the life of me, all the women who've come before me and are gonna be here even after I'm gone are still gonna try and help better better this structure, this law. Yes, you have provincial law, you have federal laws that non indigenous people and immigrants follow. But our law is under the Indian Act. And And you know, like this one young man, you know, says, you know, th we're fighting against the oldest the oldest monarchy in the world, one of the older monarchies in the world. And on top of that too, like the federal government has hundreds, thousands of lawyers. So, you know, right off the bat you know, we're we try we're trying to educate our young people and understand the systemic racism that has come and perpetrated its way from from the conquering and the exploitation of Native Americans, United States, it coming into Canada through oil money, just just to take land. Just to take land and like again, under under the King of England right now, we're we're r under treaty. Marina Crane (46:50.188) Which is different than Native Americans. So when you have Daniel Smith and these separatist people and even immigrants who come in from the United States or think American, no, we're not Americans. We're we're c a colonial construct with a ki with a with a king and a former queen. All for from the time of the fur traders. All that all that stuff. Because, you know, at one time Britain was a superpower. At one time the United States was a superpower. And I think it's really difficult for you know, for for we'll say white people or or people who who are colonialized or part of the settler state for for you know, to get the reality that you're your the the regime has changed. the the policies and procedures and the laws of of each government has changed. And just based on just in the United States it's based on a president, one man. W like they have they say the constitution and all this, the Senate and all that, okay? But but in Canada we have a king based on treaties and all this stuff. Do you know the United States' first treaty? The United States, when it became a country, the first treaty that they made was called the Jay Treaty. And that gave rights to to indigenous people from Canada to travel into the United States and live there. That's called the Jay Treaty. So when you're talking about breaking away and separating, who who who has more eligibility? It sure isn't colonizers, it's the indigenous people of the Americas. also validated in the J Treaty of the United States. And then from there we've got treaties one, you know, one, two, three, and we go on in Canada. and Native American people do not have treaty. They don't. They have elected officials that, you know, for some reason, out of the blue, like maybe they live to be fifty or forty or seventy. And just that those couple of decades, you know, they change they change the way people think and how they understand things. Marina Crane (49:10.166) Because there's no reference for the people that came before them. I said, Well those settlers, you know, scalping Indians, like, you know, all this stuff that I talk about in terms of my podcast on the genocide. Well, we're not responsible, they say. But yes, you're responsible now. you're responsible to take a look at at who is doing what and and and to what people. You know, I I I'm just really the the indifference of of of people towards people who've actually you know, their bloodline comes from the Americas. So with that I don't I don't think people get a total grasp of exactly you know, what country they're living in or the history of the Americas because it's been erased by by capitalists ways of thinking. So anyway, I just wanted to put that out there that there's this legacy of of people having laws or policies and how discriminatory they are in terms of fascism. Now that's for non indigenous women. who like white women or or other women of color who who do not fall under the Indian Act or like are not indigenous, that means Metis, Inuit or First Nations. There there's fascism. And that's the closest I can get to what the Indian Act is. But when you're afraid and you're saying, the you know, they're gonna change the way how women are how women are and who their what their rights are That that's that's scary. And yes, as a as I as an indigenous woman, like welcome to the club. But it but if it offends you that I say that and and you think I'm not putting some boundaries down and saying, No, I know I'm different. And if it offends you then then that's not my problem. But like I said, my whole life I've made friends and I've had to walk away from them. Marina Crane (51:26.56) And I think the greatest lesson I've learned in terms of culture or just the differences within each of us as human beings is our inability to put boundaries down. Now the greatest gift as a human being can give to another human being is is to state your boundaries. You know, to let to let the other person know how you feel. what you're capable of doing or not doing, what you're capable of participating in and what you're not capable of participating in. Putting boundaries down. Letting them know because in in the long long run of it, in my opinion, it's a blessing. For me, I get joy out of it that that I I've been respected in such a way that's that a boundaries are put in place for me, guiding me to understand that individual better. And again, for me, just being so so me. Again, I'm not pleading ignorance. I'm just saying I've I've had to walk away from friendships. again because I just you know just not assumed but it's the reality it's the reality that sometimes some people really are just just think so highly of themselves. Like it's so historical, even though they apologize and they say, yeah, this is systemic and all this the reality of it is that, you know, when when when it comes to being offended and I offend you, then then why did you want my opinion? Or why or why why did of did it offend you in the first place? See, for me, when when I'm talking when I was talking to when I was talking to a person who was putting boundaries down, they said, I can take care of myself. See, that's all this other individual had to say in in order for for me to not continue with my opinion. And but they didn't. And and because of that they weren't practicing their boundaries and because they weren't practicing their boundaries I got to see a really nasty part of them. Marina Crane (53:56.291) Which which is okay. It's just that I have to grieve over that. Like like it it's not like grieving isn't new to me. And and again too, like I said, right until the very bitter end, w until I'm six feet underground, I will be practicing boundaries and hoping that I don't have to walk away from from someone that I had hoped would be a lifetime friend. And again too, you know, by the time you're my age you get a you know, a small handful of people will always be there through thick and thin. and have known me since I was a child. It's important. I think sometimes in society, especially women, when you age and you're older and you lose connection to people who can actually see you see you because they've known you since you were a child. It's important in in terms of how healthy we are mentally and and how much people respect you because you you bring that knowledge with you about the relationships you've had with people you've known your whole life. Even women who've married into my community and and seeing them grow and and become grandparents and and seeing their children and their grandchildren. So though those are blessings in in the sense that that I'm grateful for. But I but I chose to come home from living in the States. There was some urgency or some reasoning, I know my late mother needed help. but but again to stuff that I needed to heal from I I I did I did make the effort. I have done the work. And as far as like people wondering who I am and trying to find out and learn from me, either you've done it appropriately or inappropriately. And for for those who have done it appropriately you will always be Marina Crane (56:09.89) you know, as I put Wachashta Vashteya. You know, or or just Vashteya. So so, you know, it's important. Boundaries are important. Boundaries help us learn who we are and who the other person is. And and it also helps us with our mission in this life. What is it here? What is it why are we here and what is our purpose in this life? So as I've listened to different podcasts from from, you know, different different young influencers, it's it's you know, it's important. So here's here's here's a a topic that she wrote. She says, although we only make up five percent of the population, the n two tho the twenty fourteenth National Task Force on Sex Trafficking and girls women and girls in Canada found that fifty-one percent of women and fifty percent of girls traffic hit trafficked in Canada are indigenous. Can you believe that? Even though the pop where the population only five percent of the Canadian population, we make up fifty one to fifty percent of people who are trafficked. And here's where it gets even more concerning. This is this young woman Seventy five percent of indigenous girls under the age of eighteen experience sexual abuse with fifty percent of those being under the age of fourteen. The extreme overrepresentative representation of indigenous girl women in trafficking, sex trafficking, as well as the prevail prevalence of gender violence points to a deep systemic problem. Now let's talk about the link between this and the foster care system. Now this is a young woman talking about this and this is why like for me when it came to my niece and when my brother was arrested and my nieces and nephews were put in the foster care system, I went to chief and counsel and I requested because out of the three only two were nation members ban list. On the ban list. Okay, that like th that's why I'm talking about S two. You know, when when when you're on the general ban list Marina Crane (58:32.45) Like the other niece was on the general ban list. But she wasn't she wasn't in she didn't belong to like she wasn't a voting member on any in any tribe i in the treaty seven area, even though her mother was from Treaty Seven. So that in itself there was no representation from the community she was coming from, whereas the other two were from they were actually on the nation for Sutina. So my request to get them out of the foster care system in the city and transfer them to Soutina was w again, I could do that, but not for my niece. Mot for my other niece who who was on the general ban list in Ottawa. So So she says, so we know that the foster care system in Canada has a source of major issues when it comes to Indigenous people, especially in the broader context when we talk about harmful policies from the federal government, from residential schools, the 60s scoop. It is now just evolving through the modern day child welfare system. That's why I'm saying we as Indigenous people need to take over the sovereignty of our child welfare systems. Because it's policy from the provincial and federal government that we don't have a pot to piss in. And if we do, it you have to be on the your com your the whichever indigenous community you come from, First Nations anyway or Metis community, that those leadership have a pot to piss in to get those children in their communities. That's how the system is str is is structured. And and again too if if they've been in the foster care system or they've been apprehended in the cities, like there I forget how many thousands there's over ten thousand foster children in the the tribe like in one tribe in Treaty Seven that are in Calgary. And the aver and again there's throughout the country when when children, indigenous children again, like I said, five percent and yet fifty percent or fifty one percent are trafficked. Marina Crane (01:00:51.788) And the average age is fourteen. And it's because though I that's my opinion and that and I'm adding to what this woman is saying and she says and because of that, it's a l it's leading into the root cause of those of these issues. For example, indigenous children represent less than eight percent of the Canadian population, but represent more than fifty percent of kids in care. Foster care systems is identified as a major pipeline to human trafficking, especially when it comes to kids that age out. of care without any proper support that they need. See Nietzsche Institute, that's N E C H I Institute, had curriculum, had programs to help children who were going to be aged out of a foster care system. Like for decades we've known there's been trafficking right from the get-go when when oil was discovered and and even then in residential school when those children were aged out at fifteen or sixteen from those institutions. They were given a bus ticket into Edmonton or Calgary. And who would be waiting at those bus stops? Pimps. So, you know, the Indian Friendship Centers were created to help to help these children and to help people who who were being victimized in those urban areas. Especially Regina was notorious as a child. Everybody knew that in Canada and still does, even even non indigenous people. Now this young lady goes which we are which we see in the number of children that have gone missing. There is often a link between them and their experience in dealing with child protection agencies or the foster care system. And survivors of trafficking have pointed out the link between them and entering the system that actually deni dealing with poverty over abuse. So again, like The whole nature. Yes, it was Indian residential schools and in the seventies the leadership said we needed to establish Nietzsche Institute. Now this what the hell? Sam Mureshi, who was appointed and was in cahoots and still is with Danielle Smith, as well as this leader of the Separatist Party and all this entourage of separatist people like hello, two hundred and fifty thousand signatures. You know, come on people, get educated here. Marina Crane (01:03:17.752) For decades and decades indigenous people have been we've been fighting to help heal our children and protect them. And you you then you get this woman elected into the province who shuts down all these programs, these programs that were fiduciary obligation from Ottawa that because Ottawa is trying to make sure the province deals with it, and what does that province do, especially Alberta wants to separate? Why? Because they don't want like hello. They're trying to they're trying to take take the the the money, the very the very milk from Mother Earth's tit called oil and gas. Okay, so this woman says entering the system, then actually dealing with poverty over abuse. So you here she says she's got a map and she shows of the disappearance of from 2010 to the present. And this map ca shows the outline of three major centers disappearing in the prover prairie provinces, Winnipeg, Edmonton and Prince Albert Regina Saskat Saskatoon Triangle. So when we talk about the disappearance occurring in these three prairie provinces, is it very important to note that the prairie provinces encounter the three, the top four provinces in terms of indigenous population. But this is really just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the statistics and how we actually dismantle this problem. But the imp imp emphasis on the foster care and child welfare system in general is so incredibly important because right now First Nations across Canada are asserting their jurisdiction over Bill C ninety two, which gives the nation the capacity to actually manage their own children. Can you believe that? Twenty twenty six A bill C ninety two is identifying that we need to manage our own children and that we've been fighting to do this, and how many senators and how many House of Commons, like how much of this cycle we've been circling over and over again? Because what we're a moneymaker, we're a moneymaker for foster parents, for psychologists, social workers that are not that are non indigenous. Marina Crane (01:05:44.579) Bless the hearts of those non indigenous social workers and therapists who actually give a shit. And for me that's far and in between. That's why I advocate for our own people to you like it like Nietzsche Institute. And and what did they do? They shut it down to try and privatize recovery centers. Eleven in the province of Alberta. W who was the structure that created that? Indigenous people. And what do they do? Now they're putting it, passing it off. As helping all other people under the privacy privatization of the Alberta government. Like, get it, realize it. You know, when you talk about injustices, we know we've been doing this since the closing of Indian residential schools. So this lady says that is why it is so incredibly important for that work to be treated delicately as a as a top priority and people sitting at the table that not just have experience with child welfare system but people with social work backgrounds but also people that understand the data piece that it bec the data piece of it because this is systemic. So when I talk about systemic systemic racism and dismantling and understanding colonial ways of construct, that's what I'm talking about. There are more people like myself who understand the system because we've been living in it for decades since we were children, ch teenagers, getting an education. Now she goes on to say there are multiple moving parts there that need to be addressed, but this is concerning. Why are Native Americans called Indians? So again, Bill C ninety two, it's the complexity of it and how it has been dealt with because it's so systemic. Like I said, there are there are people like like like she says that like say the si the sixties, indigenous people, like I I think in in terms of of Marina Crane (01:08:00.559) just how how people like farmers, ranchers, Indian she like I I don't know. What I'm trying to say is like it it it would be important that people understand where trafficking started and why it's so entrenched in in our whole system that's set up by the federal and provincial governments and that yeah just now we're getting this bill passed. How many decades? Like I said, twenty years ago, my niece fell through the cracks. Marina Crane (01:08:38.53) The only way I could express my concern was through my blog. And even then talking about traff trafficking and nobody wanted to listen. Because historically it's just taking for granted. This is you know, like where are the laws protecting the women and children? And and how is leadership responsible when they take that oath to protect the most vulnerable within the community, their fiduciary obligation. to to the monies that come in and how it's being spent. It's important right now, even with Sutana and this lawsuit, because we're we're making an the this chief and counsel is making an effort to, you know, establish establish who is responsible and the fiduciary obligation of money that comes in and this is trust money as well as well as money from Sutana that generates from revenue. And and and these these are concerns because this affects all indigenous people, both in the United States and Canada. So even though you might just think, it's an Alberta or Sutana thing, no. Everything and anything that happens within indigenous people affects has a ripple effect throughout every part of Indian country. Indigenous First Nations, Metis, all of that. So yes, it's important to understand and to be advocate, especially if you don't live in an indigenous First Nations Metis Inuit community and and you have a status card, it is important to be advocate. Be an advocate and as much as you do and the disparities of stepping on people's feet, the reality of how you have to deal with the systemic racism towards indigenous women when you want to work with indigenous people within First Nations in Witch or Metis communities. It's vital. And and you're gonna get criticized, you're gonna get death threats, whatever. You're gonna you're gonna experience that. how and why do I know? Because I I I haven't gotten death threats, but I sure have had a lot of gossip that that could have killed me, that could have really h that have damaged my reputation and and and even my my character. But yet I know who I am. Marina Crane (01:10:59.72) and I and I know the people I've grown up with here in Soudina. And and and again, I don't think I could do this podcast without really, you know, telling and having people understand that that, you know, it's important to to know who you are, to know your mission in life and the purpose that you're here, whether or not people want to listen or or deal with it or understand how I talk about certain things. And again too, you know, I'm pretty sure there are people who are listening to my podcast that are taking mental notes or actual notes and saying, okay, I didn't know this or yeah, I need to do that. But the reality of it is, you know, life isn't easy. you know, the it's it it's like I said, where would we be as women without men? And where would men be without women? So Setting boundaries down and understanding the complexities of healthy human sexuality is is vital to our very existence. You know, we like I've said before, we can shut it off. It's not like a lice light switch. So we go through the process of understanding boundaries. And and hopefully whatever trauma or way certain ways of thinking that makes you angry or resentful. or just i have emotional pain. it's important to feel that pain and to have a support system in place of people who will help you through that pain you're feeling. Again, that's why I I I continually admire the young women who we from the very young age at fifteen, having attended those Wa Weepie ceremonies and seen the injustice done to, you know, their friends. And how they've rallied for the past twenty years to understand themselves and others within their circle of friends, mm you know, peers. It's so vitally important to have that because it's part of a collective holistic way of healing and understanding what it is to be a healthy human sexual person with boundaries. as much as I praise them, and I don't know if they know how I feel about them, I I do put it on my podcast. Marina Crane (01:13:28.962) And every once in a while I will say, you know, to one of our leaders, we need to honor these young women. And and again to you know, when they're ready to be honored, it'll be nice. But again too, out of respect, you have to, you know, understand their boundaries as well. So anyway, I just wanted to put that out there. I I'm really grateful for all the things that I know about Europe, about the United States, about South America. I know there are so many other things that that I keep on learning about and and hopefully you know as I as I understand and try to to make made a point of what what is a pretendian and what isn't and why is why is it important for for people to understand, you know, that you're doing a disservice by pretending that that you've lived this experience when you haven't. Or or pretend that you're living it today when you really haven't. So if I offend people that way and you think that you are good friends with me, I see I see you. And and what can I say? You know, actions speak louder than words, and my whole life I've known so many white people. I don't chase after white people. I was talking to my cousin, I said, Y you know, this is the whole point. You you just don't chase after people for attention. I I I know when I see that I I know that it has it's it's on the it's it's stepping the boundaries of people. It's over it's crossing those boundaries. And and and that's why in my earlier podcasts about Nathan chasing horse and limerence Marina Crane (01:15:26.88) infatuation or the the the the moment that infatuation turns into limerance. See a lot of people who you know who believe they have this keynote or this theory or this understanding of limerence you know you're welcome to your own interpretation of how you see it and how you need to eliminate it or what it means to to be in limerance. And and for me, it it's a it's a little different than than when I say establishing boundaries because a lot of times when when people are attracted to people and they have this sexual arousal, they project it onto the individual as if that individual is is that love connection. But the reality of it is the critical thinking is the individual isn't isn't the person, it's the person Who you have memory of. So the more you focus on the original sexual arousal of of this this feeling, the sexual feeling that you have isn't on the person you're in limerence with. So even though you feel that, it it it's not real. And the more you know that and the more boundaries are put in place, the better off your relationship is with the person. of that you're attracted to. Because limerence sort of buggers everything up, bastardizes everything. Because you you don't have the capacity to separate illusion, delusion, or even in in terms of trying to find purpose in your life. I just I just hope and I just hope that that I I get to meet older white women who do have the capacity to put boundaries down. Marina Crane (01:17:32.3) Like that for me that that's a critical statement. That's a critical statement. because because I I do th I do truly believe that Daniel Smith is is incapable of having boundaries, especially with men who don't have boundaries as well. That's just my personal opinion. And and I know some women wouldn't want to even be put in the same category as her, but but the reality of it is yes, there there are s complexities when it when it comes to boundaries. And and with that I hope I hope women and men can understand and respect each other when it comes to those boundaries. So I hope my podcast isn't as boring as as as like I I would have thought it would be. But I'm gonna publish this and we'll see how that goes. And I don't want to change anything of this podcast. I I just wanted to put that out there so there's a little history to to these statistics that are out there when it when it comes to the way indigenous women are seen.