WHY DID IT TAKE SO LONG FOR NATHAN CHASING HORSE TO GET CAUGHT. THE ANSWER IS MULTILAYERED. I WILL ATTEMPT TO ANSWER FROM AN INDIGENOUS WOMAN'S PERSPECTIVE

THIS POST I"LL BE EDITING THROUGHOUT THE COMING WEEKS. 

 I’m sending you, my Blog audience a few TikTok short clips. Feel free to track them down as I’ll put their reference down to view the entire version. I felt these short clips were appropriate for these very heavy topics of SA and predators, 

Since Nathan Chasing Horse's arrest this topic or question was asked of me. "How did you know who he was so early on?'  OR WHY DID IT TAKE SO LONG FOR NATHAN TO GET CAUGHT? How did I follow my gut instincts about this medicine boy. Yes, boy, because I am a little older than this boys parents. Seventeen years ago, I was much younger and educated to some extend in having earned a degree; however, what I’ve learned about human behavior and my own cultural psychology is nothing short of amazing. I’m grateful for what I am about to share. Within these next few months, I’ll updating this blog site. I’ll try to make it a lot more user friendly by setting up video podcast summarizing up each year of this blog. My lived experienced as being indigenous helped me.

Our medicine people have a history of being obsessed with boys and girls. It wasn’t the case during my late grandparent’s time. I could imagine that if Sitting Bull lived a long life my grandparents were born in what would been Sitting Bull’s elder years. This is why my grandparents say the medicine was good once, back in the day. Today it’s very rare to find such a medicine person. I can honestly say, I’ve met one.

In any case, I'll continue back onto the topic of attitudes towards indigenous women from no fault of our own. As I truly believe we as indigenous people we were born, stamped from the beginning, into a systemic racist environment of white supremacy. It’s our reality. It’s our lived experience.  It wasn’t our parent’s fault nor was it our grandparents’ fault either. A systemic racist system setup to herd our indigenous children in the masses from generation after generation. They were all just babies these ancestorial children of ours. White supremacy purging our First Nation’s communities of our indigenous babies. These places they called Indian Residential School, Day School, Adoption and Foster Care: however, I believe they were setup like cults. The staff were like prison guards who ritualistically practiced abusive behavior either through torture, murder, and SA. It's this racial injustice system created for us by white supremacy that we now find ourselves living a rape culture & a performative culture.

 The first short clip is regarding attitudes towards women seeking help. Any women today who tries to escape a narcissistic even sociopathic partner has very little resources offered to her/him/she/them...

 The second short video clip reminds me of how older rich non-indigenous men see young vulnerable indigenous girls and indigenous women. As an indigenous elder woman, I am not making excuses for myself as this second clip applies to all women. It reminded of the mental health crisis of indigenous girls and indigenous women.

(still editing ...) WE ARE NOT SEEN IN SOCIETY. OUR LIVED EXPERIENCES MEANS WE ARE SILENCED. MURDERED AND MISSING INDIGENOUS GIRLS AND INDIGENOUS WOMEN IS GENOCIDE. 

Its through my lived experienced, a history of genocide, I was born into, centuries of being sexualized, hunted, and murdered for being and indigenous women existed and exists. We can still feel the reminisces of human trafficking. It can not be a shameful thing as starvation was a strategy used to annihilate us. Creating a mythology around their religious teaching that all indigenous people of the Americas we're so savage. These colors these colonizers created this mythology to justify the basic creed of the doctrine of discovery. Promoting that if they saw and considered all indigenous people as not human, they would not get prosecuted for murder. A bounty was put on the heads of indigenous women. A town in one of the Dakotas was settled for bounty hunters. Their favorite targets were pregnant indigenous women. Taking the scalps of the unborn fetus and the mum to collect two skills. This was their strategy. Indigenous women we're not taking to breed like the colonizers did too black women. As the approach was to annihilate all indigenous people and in order to do that they had to kill the women who would create new life.

Attitudes towards indigenous women's sexual response was further Taken into a new level of genocide. Indigenous women were considered savage like. The strategy of educating and converting indigenous boys through the establishment of industrial schools was halted. The discussion of these boys being educated and returning to there are First Nations communities was considered a lost cause. The governments realized that if they educated the boy, he would return home and marry a girl who in turn would convert him back to being a savage. Their solution was to create indigen D and residential schools where they could educate both girls and boys. Such begins the tragedy of mass incarceration of our indigenous babies generation after generation. Bing housed in establishments disguised at schools but in actuality they were prison like. Our babies grew up not knowing their language not knowing a living skill and not respecting their parents. Despite the religious dogma of the tent amendments of honoring by parents. These Indian residential schools indoctrinated them into believing but what they were doing was rising above their savage like state. And if they did not conform, they were tortured, punished and even to the point of being murdered. My own father ran away from in an Indian residential school in the dead of winter period he was caught and for his punishment he was left to sleep in a cold addict an addict were the staff put dead bodies of indigenous children. I don't know how long he was left there maybe weeks maybe days I do not know. This is just one of the stories of the cruelty of the people who came before us. They lived generations after generations taught to be silent about the torture that they experienced in these places. Talk not to talk about what they the horrors they saw such as rape such as murder such as the disposal of children's bodies. Is it any wonder why after generations of indoctrination that each generation was to think that these Indian residential schools were good. Because they taught them how to clean their homes work the soil and be good human beings that by going to these places, they rose above there savage state. This classical conditioning is like Pavlov’s theory where you feed a dog put him in a cage so he can't jump up every time he shocked the dog would learn not to escape but just stay in the cage. So where these children believe not to practice their culture their language even child rearing. My late mother was not taught sex education so when she became pregnant, she told me she thought she was going to have a litter of babies. This learned helplessness isn't the fault of my parents nor my grandparents nor any child who was raised in these residential schools however we are living with the aftermath or the after effect of the stop indoctrination that white supremacy is God and that the queen is the superior being the head of the end can church or even the Pope for that matter. When these people in positions of power ask us to jump and we are conditioned to reply how high do you want us to jump. That anybody who comes into our communities was perceived as better than or greater than us must be of good character.

Today as an indigenous woman we see this attitude that our communities have towards our female sexuality. We also see the fear that indigenous people have towards people of authority like the RCMP or the police. Edward it were it was these institutions that were created by the government 2 rally up mass after hundreds and hundreds of children into these it does indigenous residential schools it was also white supremacy who created distrust exhibit coming to our communities seeking indigenous women as sexual objects. As I've mentioned before human trafficking prostitution to this day shouldn't be seen as something shameful, but R indigenous women went through generations after generations. Please indigenous women prostituted themselves out so they could feed their children. The strategy of the Canadian government was to continue annihilating indigenous women by passing the law but if it indigenous woman married a non indigenous person she would lose her status. They even further promoted this shame and guilt of the female sexual response. Indigenous women were teaching their children to specially their female girls not to be sexually active not to show sexual response not to be human beings. As my late father would say human sexuality isn't over silver six feet underground. Indigenous parents trying to promote a positive environment for their children was sometimes in vain. Protecting them from this ideology of white supremacy and at the same time being put down, being seen as invisible. Is it any wonder why children who've been sexually abused remain silent. Is it any wonder why a stranger a nonindigenous stranger. Would be perceived as knowing what's right from wrong. Imagine generations after generations of indigenous women being sexually assaulted and seeing that they couldn't do nothing to protect them. I believe it must be that same feeling that black men had in seeing their mothers and sisters and daughters being sexually assaulted by their white slave owners. Today and hopefully for generations to come we as indigenous people and people of colour will practice spiritual activism. This means fighting and healing from white supremacy. Teaching our children and their children the skills of spirituality. It's this reality that we are confronted with because if we do not do anything more people will die. More indigenous women will be hunted and killed. More children will be apprehended and raised by nonindigenous families. More people will continue to be disgusted with the fact that we as indigenous people have a voice, and we have an identity. I believe as we discuss racial injustice and inequalities and as we try to teach anti oppression and equity, we will provide a better and safer environment for our children and their children.

Today we see the lack of this education of anti oppression and equity you may ask how we see it and this is where human trafficking sexual assaults and a polarization of our communities when we are so desperate to find a new identity a new purpose a new pride in being indigenous. So when a young man, Hollywood actor, comes into our community performing and acting like he is the Messiah. Where his followers are promoting him as a holy man. Where he is seen as practising his language in his culture. As I earlier described had these feminine qualities that inherent in indigenous men because generations after generations we were raised in matriarchal society. We can see this in our DNA in our in our ways of walking in other ways of approaching human sexuality. This Nathan chasing horse disguised all this with an entourage that promoted Wellness. For those who are not raised in understanding spiritual activism or even the approach of how creator guides us every day by his will. If we were not taught this and if we did not look out for frauds if we did not feel comfortable then bye our parents not to trust our intuitive selves. Then people like Nathan chasing horse would get away with manipulation much like colonizers, men who exploit indigenous women. As they've done for centuries after centuries. It's this disgusting lack of respect this disgusting lack of respecting female human sexuality. As my late father would say it is not over till it's over and then here's this young man preaching that this female sexual response needs to be tamed at an early age and that his male indigenous followers believed this in this strategy because it made them seem holy or more powerful over indigenous women.

We are so conditioned to think or were taught that the governments were good. From conditioning our grandparents, our parents to think these places called Indian residential schools were good, not thinking their parents and they themselves were not raise by their parents. Logically, how can these places be a good place.

Age-appropriate relationships with older men are not good. There’s also an epidemic of older rich. non-indigenous men who buy young indigenous mistresses. These poor uneducated women are good human beings. Yes, teaching learned its not their fault they’ve learned helplessness, codependence and enabling skills. I think and believe that’s one of the core reasons why I started this blog. The easiness to share tragedy or drama around trauma is so classical. The reality that there's nobody coming to help them, the horrors seen is talked about is to gain sympathy. Sex education was never taught. Young vulnerable women seeking security from an older man or a man who is perceived as being powerful in his masculine energy.

Within my lived experience, into this hostile environment I was born into, I’ll confirm this mental health crisis for indigenous girls and indigenous women. Sexualized attitudes towards our feminine energy exists and continues to plague our very existence. There is a difference seen within our indigenous communities, as well as in all human beings in general. Especially when it comes to our own mental health issues. Remember, our indigenous grandparents, our indigenous parents didn't have access to mental health providers, Psychotherapist. I am not talking about AA counsellor, nor any type of counsellors conducting Sweat or Sundance through lived experiences. I am talking about months to years revisiting, deconstructing, and reconstructing one’s childhood trauma by a guided mental health practitioner. We are so conditioned into believing the governments were good. Classical conditioning our grandparents, our parents and to our own understanding living to respect white supremacy. Honor white privilege patriarchy. As I’ve heard indigenous peoples of the United States say about Indigenous Canadians. They’ve said that when our Queen says jump. We respond with how high you want us to jump your majesty.

You asked or commented once about educating our indigenous boys or our indigenous men. I mentioned how Nathan’s appearance here as a youth mentor was vital for our men. It was vital because he was very feminine in his nature. I’ve grown up seeing the beauty of feminine men. Nathan brought his feminine beauty into our community. Our community that is very misogynistic and controlling as result of colonialism. My Dakota grandfathers were very feminine. I saw how they held their male energy in the presence of healthy indigenous women. The concept of knowing those who came before us is a very powerful affirmation. (thank you for sharing with me about your late uncle’s journey home)

As the time goes into preparing myself for my sister’s journey honoring her life through ceremony is important. I’m pacing myself in what am doing. Stepping back creating spiritual sacred space each day until she leaves is my responsibility, as I am the elder.

I’ve grown up around non-indigenous energy. I know I maybe the only or one of only few indigenous people you’ve met. Your energy is very masculine. My culture & my way of life is matriarchal. Stepping back & pacing myself for me reflecting on grieving, death & dying prepares me for my future journey as well.

I know I am unique. Choosing to live in a community where people remember me as child, a teen, a young adult and now into my senior years was very important step for me in moving home.

Finding balance with masculine & feminine energy is shifting. I do realize I need to find that masculine energy again. It’s fleeting; however, Creator’s Will is being done. The feminine energy my sister takes with her in her journey will be missed. Paul’s friendship represented that masculine colonial energy. This too will be missed.

Whether you see this shift isn’t as important as it is for me to own it. To own it for people who need to hear it. My sister’s amazing gift of seeing me honors me by throughout her life, seeing me. I wanted to share this with you. I know my culture is foreign to you. The intensity of your skill set is amazing. Again, thank you for holding space for me yesterday. I’m feeling much better & have a self-care plan in place. A plan of pacing my emotions, protecting myself through prayer & praying Creator’s Will guides my sister in her journey; however & whenever this takes place.  

 

My late mother thought when she first got pregnant, she would have a litter of babies. Talking about any topics around human sexuality or sexual arousal would only trigger Indian residential school survivor. Excuse me here, as I really don't like describing them as schools rather I see as prisons. Prisons were the mass incarceration of indigenous were kept away from their parents. Understand this reality, my grandmother wasn't raised by her parents nor were both of my parents never raised by their parents. 

When your conditioned to believe you are receiving the best education money can pay you tend to believe this government bullshit. When I was a teen my parents separated for a brief period and my late mom was so exhausted as a single parent that she enrolled use, voluntarily enrolled into an Indian Residential School. She thought this was the best place for us. This is where my theory of why parents think "the other" is better than them. Remember my parents were conditioned to think they were not good people that they came from a subgroup of human species, worthless, stupid and ignorant. I believe it was their way of coping with the reality that their parents too were not good parents cause the government deemed it so. 

 

Is it any wonder why people would believe "the other" is better than them. With the philosophy of their children will learn the hard way the way they were raised. Understand this, I do not blame my parents. When I first heard stories from my parents, my relatives and friends about the horrors of their lived experiences in those hell holes called Indian Residential Schools, I was so enraged. I still find it difficult to write about or think about my poor parents as children being afraid for their lives. I just can not understand the cruelty of white supremacy. In any case, back to my story about age appropriateness or the lack of age appropriateness within this world.

 

Its the lessons I've learned in what Nathan Chasing Horse has taught me. As he is a very performative boy, in the sense of being born into a performative culture. Also, we preform not only to get attention but also get money. We learn as children to perform to get the attention of our parents. As we've experience childhood trauma we've learned to self sooth ourselves by performing in some form of fantasy, illusion, delusion or escapism rather than experiencing the pain, whether its physical or emotional.  Again, I repeat myself, its not our parents’ fault nor is it our grandparents’ fault. Its why I say, "know those who came before you." It's in this way of understanding that we start understanding ourselves.  

 Before I go further, there are two definitions you need to know:

 Infatuation: an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something. 

There is a difference seen within our indigenous communities. Especially when it comes to our own mental health. Remember, our grandparents, parents didn't have access to mental health provider, Psychotherapist. I am not talking about AA counsellor, nor any type of counsellors conducting Sweat or Sundance. I am talking about months to years of deconstructing childhood trauma.

Its important to note that Infatuation can be dealt with a counsellor who has no therapeutic professional credentials: however, here the difference. I firmly believe that Nathan Chasing Horse fooled so many into thinking he could heal their childhood trauma by being intuitive. Every human being is gifted with intuitive instinct. 

Limerence is: It's a deeper psychological condition that can last longer than an infatuation. It's having obsession thoughts continuously sometimes lasting months. 

“ A word defining the state of being “madly in love.”    It was coined by Dorothy Tennov, PhD, in 1977.   A large amount of further research has been done by Helen Fisher, PhD, along with her colleagues who have further researched the concept. Limerence is similar to Infatuation, which is defined as an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something and can contribute to obsessive behavior. It is a chemically influenced state, primarily fueled by the chemical dopamine, a chemical released by neurons in the human brain, which plays a major role in the motivational component of reward-motivated behavior. The limerence attachment to the relationship and person usually increases in the presence of barriers or objections to the relationship. Involves emotional swings from joy to sorrow, depending on the most recent interaction with the limerent object and their level of demonstrated reciprocal interest (or lack thereof). Can result in physical illness, usually involving the stomach, headaches, and/or dizziness.”

 I've found that creating a drama or negative self-talk as in self-defeating behavior stimulates or triggers an episode. It's why when soldiers suffer from PSTD whose childhood was also riddled with trauma have a difficult time. This is an addictive state where a trigger is stimulated as a relapse occurs. A person recovers until that the next trigger occurs. If a soldier had no prior childhood experience with PTSD their recovery and relapse isn't so dramatic. In other words, they can adjust back into civilian life. I believe it much the same when woman enters into an abusive relationship and when she tries to leave, she relapses. Its why psychotherapy is so vital in healing from such childhood and adult trauma. There is a big distinction between infatuation and Limerence. Its from this limerence that we see moms who love their children leave with a stranger they met in a bar. Or, why parents think their daughters are better off with a mature man. They think that an older man can tame this limerence behavior. You see, there must be a reward offered or a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. The person who is suffering from limerence knows they must perform to get the stimulus they crave. It's the attention of a stranger or a perceived Holy Man like how Nathan Chasing Horse conditioned his helpers to promote him wherever he visited. Sometime the SA victim will relive their assault unconsciously triggering a sexual response. It's not their fault nor was it ever mine when I started recoverin my own trauma. We recreate our own trauma repeatedly not knowing we are seeking attention or approval that we are good people. As children see other perform and think its appropriate behavior not knowing its our parents or relatives’ way of coping from their own childhood trauma. This is what I've called a performative culture. 

It wasn't our parents’ fault that they didn't seek out psychotherapists. Its not our fault; however, it's up to our young to seek out many different venues of healing not just sweats and Sundance.  

As young women, men seek out the most vulnerable who can serve them. Understanding our own female sexual response as being healthy means we've stopped being performative and we've stopped being in a limerence state of a deeply troubling infatuation. We've started feeling and knowing what it is that makes us truly happy within our own healthy human sexually. It for this reason I used this second short clip about why older men seek out younger women. And, also, I am attaching some humorous clip cause as indigenous people we know that laughter bring a healing spirit to own very souls. I hope you enjoy. As I've said sometime my content is just too heavy and riddle with sadness and despair. Life is meant to be lived an shared with people we celebrate love and celebrate life with.... enjoy...

The reality of all women who are partnered with a narcissistic male. There are very little support systems in place for women who seek safety. 

Age appropriateness is important. Five years younger or five years older. 

Humor helps the reality of polarized sexual responses. 

When you find yourself in a space were you don't know what to do... Also, remember to howl at the moon as life is worth celebrating love and celebrating life.