To get to my point, of what's amazing, it's that over these years I never thought my writing anything was going to matter much.
Today, a friend who also knows this guy was having problems with a relative. He's owed her thousands of dollars & with her trucks Bg company, she needs to pay her bills. So what does this have to do with this plastic medicineman. Well, He's good business man.
Remember that movie "You've got mail" WithTom Hanks & Meg Ryan? Tom say to Meg "It's not personal its business." Well, that's the advice I gave her. First, setup a mediator who can negotiate for you, I said. Then, if he still doesn't pay what he owes you sue him.
At least your giving him the "benefit of the doubt" before you go through any form of litigation. I mentioned that this would reflect badly the next time he tries to secure a business contract.
I warned her that "it's not personal it's business" to get a credible witness or witnesses cause he's going to to discredit you.
This where this plastic medicine man was mentioned. I said, in business the other person will try to make the other look incompetent. He'll do everything to make it look like it's your fault.
I'm saying this cause as women we really need to think about boundaries. We think that if we call a guy out he'll pay what he owes; however, that's our own foolishness.
I've learned in my old age that much of what we think is morale or personal isn't really business. Personal stuff is if I had a child from this plastic medicine man and was seeking child support. Personal is being a mom to one of his many children. Protecting children from the errors of the parent or parents.
I had a dad, uncles, grandfathers. The men in my life were in my life. It's important for women and girls to be thankful or grateful.
Years ago Nathan says to me indirectly "She thinks she more powerful than me." At the time, I didn't grasp the idea of power until my eldest brother took his journey home seven months ago. Throughout me life is this strength that I'm very grateful for that came from all the male influences in my life.
We never really change from who we were as children. My late brother protected my late mom, protected me, protected his wife, protected his children. I knew what it was like to have a man save my life by risking their life.
That's why when Nathan says "I'll die for you." It didn't register cause I knew it was not sincere. I thought all I did was connect him with money. It was really nothing. I didn't question his gratitude towards me.
So again, the saying it's not personal it's business. When I was a child I saved another child's life from drowning. If this makes me more powerful than him or the fact my late father risked his life for me, then I'll accept this type of power.
Why? Why, you may ask. Well, there are indigenous children and youth who believe they are not worth anything cause there's no male influence. I mean a provider. My late father wasn't perfect nor were my uncles or grandfathers. I'm grateful to all of them.
In my youth I travelled alone and I know all these male influences in my life guided me and protected either physically or spiritually. If anything or anyone wish to investigate me you will find and learn who these men in my life were.
Bottom line, be grateful and give thanks for all Creator gives.
When Nathan says I'm more powerful than him he was using a business sense not a personal reference about me. I learned these past decades that I'm capable of doing great things only if it's done with gratitude & an ability to ask questions.
For all you young girls and young women, people tend to discredit those who use the force of truth, the force of love and the force of soul. I hope you all get it. 💕
